I am turning 18 tomorrow. Any life advice for me
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This was reported twice for not being a shower thought. The reporters are correct, it’s not strictly a shower thought.
But thinking about getting older is something we all do in the shower, for multiple reasons :)
Looks like people are mostly enjoying it so I’ll let it stay for now.
Thinks about 18 year olds in the shower
Mods get them!
At that age, I was trying my hardest to figure out what I’m doing, to be together like the older adults.
I’m 39, I don’t have a clue what I’m doing and I’m more together than most of my coworkers, many who are older than me.
We’re all just trying to figure it out, so when you look up and think you don’t know what you’re doing, you’re with everyone. And if you know someone who says they have everything together and don’t have any issues, be wary as they likely have a lot of blind spots to their life.
Live in the present, take time to analyse things. It’s ok if you are slower at some things. Every time spent reflecting will enrich your next reflection and bring more peace and comprehension. Be patient. Try new things. Meet people. Hold your own opinions to scrutiny, back them up with evidence. Do the work. Trust the right people. Don’t give in to fear or anger. Allow yourself to feel sad. Analyse your frustration and feelings. Talk to yourself if no one is listening. Keep some of your hobbies especially if it’s skill dependant going.
Also ffs don’t start smoking.
Don’t drink a lot. I’ve forgotten a lot of good times due to excessive drinking, and it’s taken a toll on my mental health. I’m 35 now and trying to make some changes, but I’ve wasted about 15 years of my life just partying and being hungover. Not to mention the tens of thousands of dollars spent.
On a positive note: find something to volunteer your time doing. Even an hour or two a week is great. It’s a great way to meet people, and there is so much good work being done by organizations who always need extra help.
Good luck to you dude, I know you have a bright future ahead of you!
Take care of your body is the only one you have, use sunscreen.
Spend time with your parents and people you love they are not going to be around forever, do things they like.
You have time, don’t rush into things. Don’t think you are 25 you should have a family by now, life is not a race each person reach goals differently and not all have the same goals. Search what makes you happy and do it.
Worry only for what you control, if you can control it you can fix it, resolve it so look for solutions but don’t worry about what is out of your control, you won’t be able to fix it you have to accept some things are they are and learn to life with them being that way.
If you don’t know yet learn a second language. Chinese seems the most useful nowadays.
If you aren’t already, start going to the gym now and don’t ever stop, or you will regret it by your late 30s. I stopped going at age 30; it’s only been seven years since but I can already feel my body falling apart. Everything hurts all the time and it doesn’t stop hurting.
Exercise, have a salad for dinner sometimes, be careful who you date and keep friends you can trust to tell you when you’re fucking up.
Meaning can be found in pain and we all face that.
Stay away from gambling sites. If you’ve got extra money and want to watch it grow, invest in Exchange Traded Funds (ETFs) with a low/no fee trading account. Stay away from meme stocks as well.
If you do invest, diversify your portfolio. SPY is very exciting but it’s heavily tied up in the AI bubble. Try to more international markets, clean energy, minerals, heavy industry. No matter what happens to the AI companies, we still need energy and resources to build stuff and keep our economy going.
Read about taxable and non taxable trading accounts in your country. Try to use those to avoid having your savings eroded by taxes. You will pay plenty of taxes on your income, so don’t worry about that!
18yo old
That’s like “ATM Machine”
Start building credit if you’re in the US, but don’t treat your credit card like free money.
Don’t let yourself get addicted to alcohol (or any other drug).
Spend a decade commuting by bike if you can (rain or shine).
Get radicalized by the terrorists (people who just wanna have a nice safe society free of bigotry and hate).
The fact you had the initiative to ask this shows you’re probably pretty intelligent. All I’ll add is the perfect life doesn’t exist. Do your best to enjoy it and be kind to people.
I just have one. Smart people learn from their mistakes. Wise people learn from the mistakes of others. You won’t leave long enough to make all the mistakes yourself.
If you haven’t yet, question what being a man means to you, and what being a good person means to you.
You will, throughout your life, find those definitions challenged. How you respond to the first will help you to develop a stronger sense of how you relate to your gender, and how it effects the way you interact with yourself and the world. How you respond to the second determines your character, which is how the world will see you as a person, and with sufficient introspection how you will see yourself.
Keep growing. Keep learning.
Not enough people do this. Very good advice!
The more discipline you can have without letting small lapses and setbacks get to you the better off you’ll be in the future. Don’t get set on something (job, relationship, philosophy) until you really know who you are and what you want, and explore WIDELY. Be honest and direct in your communication and you’ll have less drama, the trash will take itself out. Find mentors, don’t let them run your life. Use your body like a diesel truck.
