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Cake day: June 29th, 2023

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  • There absolutely is. Those folding chairs are fine for an afternoon on a Saturday or something, but if you work a desk job in them you’re gonna find yourself hurting before too long. A decent office chair should resolve most of that, but a great one will help minimize the ergonomic issues associated with an office job and help you maintain focus.

    Some of the really expensive chairs like Herman Miller are not only really good chairs, they’re also designed to be beautiful pieces of furniture (which is a price I feel we shouldn’t bother spending on the military). Using budget overflow on really good chairs is one of the classic uses of budget overflow. That said, this is clearly just financial irresponsibility given who’s doing it









  • I really like that article. As someone whose father showed a fairly strong narcissistic streak, I really appreciate the way that people with dark personalities aren’t being treated as ontologically evil, just prone to harming people. I know that while my whole family had it rough dealing with my father’s narcissistic traits, so did he, and while I’ve learned I have to maintain a certain amount of distance from folks with cluster b personalities, I am sympathetic to the fact that it isn’t like they’re having fun with all this.

    The inclusion of ways to deal with people with dark personalities in your life was excellent, as was the inclusion of what to do for those who suspect they have too much of some dark personality traits. I have an ex who easily could’ve wound up with aspd based on her not really feeling empathy, but her grandpa taught her from a young age to do empathy as a practice rather than a sense, and this resulted in her being a generally awesome person, albeit one who sometimes shows some scarier streaks to those she trusts. I dream of a world in which people with personality disorders all have access to resources and treatments that help them not hurt others or themselves when interacting with others and where the rest of us positively encourage it.









  • Don’t let your curiosity fade

    Maintain open minded compassion for those different from you

    Never be fully convinced you understand the best way to do anything

    In disputes between the affected and the unaffected give added weight to the most affected

    Learn to recognize a moral panic, and even if you have concerns related to it don’t join in. It’s the group dynamic equivalent of spiraling and catastrophizing.

    Don’t drink your calories unless you want to gain weight