More. Francafrique will likely continue linguistically diverging from French. South Africa, Malaysia, and Scotland are diverging from English/American English. Spanish continues separating into parts.

So yeah maybe they won’t have separated enough to be separate languages yet that soon, but the European imperial languages don’t have the empires that kept them together

Yeah reading your comments in here, idk how you wouldn’t. You sound like you have deep seated self esteem issues especially pertaining to your adhd. I’d even hazard a guess and say you likely have trauma relating to it and how people have responded to it in you. You aren’t alone in this, and I’m calling it out because I’ve struggled with both of these things my entire adult life.

So believe me when I assure you that you cannot resent yourself enough to be better. If it worked it would have worked by now. ADHD is tricky, and you have to learn to be cunning towards it. Charging at the executive dysfunction head on just results in tiring yourself out and resenting yourself further because you couldn’t do what neutotypicals can.

You have a disability, and from the sounds of it you’ve gone a long time without getting much support for it. You’ll probably never function as well as neurotypicals would like, and some of the tasks you’ve described are ones that I struggle with too (my wife and I will ask each other to remind us to do a thing for a 20% chance either remembers). But there is hope for you as a functioning adult and even hope for you to have a happy and mutually satisfying marriage, whether or not your current marriage can be salvaged. But it begins with you pursuing treatment, help, and new strategies not because your wife deserves or needs it, but because you deserve the ability to function better.

Do you struggle to shop in physical stores? Because this sounds like an anxiety symptom

Yeah I see pro car people use disabled people as a rhetorical position somewhat regularly, but there are a fair number of disabilities that make it so you can’t or shouldn’t drive. It’s one thing if that means “too bad you have to move to a medium sized city and use a reasonably good public transit network” but in North America, that’s not what it means. It means you move to one of the most expensive cities in your country (Ciudad Mexico, Vancouver, New York, Washington DC, Toronto, Seattle, anywhere in the metropolitan US northeast) or you move to a medium sized city (not its suburbs) and catch the hourly bus when it’s operating. The alternative, which i know people who do, is to bum a ride everywhere if you’re able, drive anyways if you’re able, or basically be housebound.

Like, it really is remarkable the difference in experience between people who don’t have a car but have a metro/light rail and the people who have neither. These are policy decisions and they can be changed.

Even if couples counseling doesn’t save your marriage, it could be the difference between a kind and loving break and an angry and resentful one. I definitely recommend it and regular counseling if you can.

I’m sorry to hear you’re in your position. Failing marriages are always awful, and when it’s caused by disability it can be that much more uncomfortable.

And I’ll say that, I relate a lot more to you in this situation. I could never marry someone who needs me to function like I don’t have adhd, which is why I married someone who’s more like us. I knew what I was getting into and so did she and the loads we share are built on the reasonable expectations we always had, like that things won’t always be as clean as we might like them to be and that dinner plans are subject to how much effort we have the capacity to put in at the time.

Keep working on your mental health, and show yourself kindness and forgiveness. Not only do you deserve such things, they’re also the most effective tools you can get to help you improve your ability to function outside of pharmaceuticals

Yeah in the US epileptics have similar restrictions. And much like up there, this makes them second class citizens in most places. I don’t want them driving, buy I won’t pretend that that isn’t a major disability in most of our continent (majority by population, not even just area).

It’s easy to say driving is a privilege when we think of the consequences of people like epileptics and alcoholics driving, but we do need to remember that it is structural and policy decisions that make it so that those who lack the privilege of operating this heavy machinery will struggle to maintain employment.

Different people find different physical activities beneficial. Some people love team sports, personally I’m not a fan of competitive activities or of games where I feel my physical abilities could let others down. Some people love running, many find that while they don’t love it, they love the physical and mental effects of it; both of which are hard to deny, there’s a reason every competitive sports team makes its players run as part of practice.

Personally I’m a cyclist, because it’s like running, but without the parts that make me not want to run and with added benefits like equipment to mess with and upgrade and the ability to use it to run errands. I also enjoy hiking for exercise because it’s just a long exhausting walk in a beautiful place that I can spend chatting with my wife.

For some people it’s basketball or soccer/football. I have a friend who’s really into gridiron flag football (she actually used to be a runner when she was younger). Sports are great for people who don’t derive meditative effects from solo cardio, but don’t discount those effects.

Some bike rides are me just listening to a podcast or audiobook, but personally I struggle to process my emotions if I’m not taking a walk or a bike ride, and so regularly doing these things is invaluable for my mental health. Runners are often the same way, the act of running can make it difficult to hold on to a thought or to avoid it, which makes it a shortcut to meditation as you just kinda have to observe your thoughts and let them go.

As someone who quit running not long after getting to the point I get runners high, you have a point, but also different people can thrive on different forms of cardio. When I ran i found myself rapidly overheating and just generally miserable until I was stoned on feel good chemicals. Bicycling on the other hand was fun enough from the start that I wasn’t struggling to force myself to do it.

When I bought my bike I was struggling to get myself out running every other day. Things like stopping for water made me feel like I was failing. By switching to a different form of cardio, one that I enjoyed, I was able to get into shape without the constant urge to give up. It also came with my knees not hurting.

If I see a scary dude trying to exercise his feelings away I just feel sympathy. Like, I’ve known too many men afraid to cry, and seeing someone exercising and trying to hold back tears feels like he’s probably healthier than many of the guys who struggle with that.

Hell as a woman I bike the pain away too.

I had to stop running like that because my body is much better for looking at than doing things with. But I switched to biking that way and yeah. 4 hours on a bicycle after work every night can almost approximate a monthly therapy session. And what it fails to give in mental health it gives in an ass. Jesus fuck I miss that ass.

He spent 4 years damaging it and between him and the pandemic it still hadn’t recovered resilience.

Maybe but I feel like food not bombs aee busy with the food thing

I’d still have fucking Adderall I’ll say that

May be possible.

“A far future construction of a dyson sphere may be possible, but remains highly unlikely.”

Quite/entirely/absolutely necessary. Quite is better for the negative while the other two are better for the positive.

“It’s not quite necessary that you bring a dish to the potluck, but it is requested that all who can do so”

“It’s absolutely necessary that you file your taxes by the deadline lest you risk an audit”

Every Midwesterner in the pnw laments the sky not trying to kill us here. It’s lovely and I love it here, but the storms that feel like the end of the world are beautiful and wonderful

Nah you’re right on both points, though I think both alternatives have their merits. I can enjoy the occasional bag of rye chips as a special treat. And I can enjoy the PNW months of rain instead of winter

Legalize the gay bomb

So i guess she wasn’t committed to being a better person

It’s like me talking to my grandpa. When I use the right words and the right ideas I can convince him of anarcha-socialist shit. That said, much like in Mr Mamdani and Herr Dipshit’s meeting we all went in hating Trump