Yeah, never feel like it’s too late to start something. There’s stuff (learning an instrument, language, craft stuff) I considered getting into in my 30s but felt like it was too late. Now I’m 40 and I’ve started and I wish I’d done it ten years ago, because I’d be so much further ahead.
I read some piece of advice a while back (on lemmy I think) about when to talk, “Does it need said? Does it need said right now? Does it need said by you?” and it really stuck with me.
I’m definitely a talker, and my friends and family will talk all day. But I know my partner can find it a bit much, so having a basic rule has been surprisingly helpful. I might want to tell him about the intresting thing that I read, but does he really want to hear that? We might need to talk about something important but stressful, maybe bringing it up just before bed isn’t the best idea?
It is all pretty obvious stuff, but I spent three decades only really spending time with people who talked all the time too. I didn’t need to worry about bringing something up at the wrong time, because if I did, they would immediately say “oh I don’t want to talk about that because…” and explain or change the subject. I didn’t worry about a conversation being uninteresting, because if it was we’d quickly tangent into something that worked for us both.
I feel like “going viral” partly covers that? When you make an offensive tweet before boarding a plane, and get turn off flight mode to realise the world has judged you and you’ve lost your job?
If you specifically mean how the Internet can misrepresented a country because most people online have never been to Montenegro or Bhutan, then it’s maybe just “bias”?
Yeah, the fact that “angrily doing something to prove a point” is much more effective than “knowing it’s important and promising to do it” leads to some unhealthy relationship dynamics…
Wow. Hadn’t heard of him, but reading his wiki page gives quite a first impression. Not just terrible political beliefs (which you could argue are a genuine disagreement), and getting wealthy people off out of their conviction (perhaps they were indeed innocent…) but also just straightforward unethical behaviour like plagiarism.
My dream! Seriously, I’ve looked into this before.
It’s the transitions that are the enemy! Getting un/dressed and getting dry are both annoying. In summer when I’m only wearing shorts and can airdry in the warmth I’m fine taking a shower. But most of the year I just hate the transition…
Yeah I get that a lot. Often it’s just a few bars, so it loops horrendously. It worse when I don’t really know the song well, recently I woke up with Spandau Ballet ‘Gold’ playing in my head. All day, I just kept hearing “Gold! (gold!)” repeating, didn’t know any other words, just a awful loop. That’s why I constantly have other music playing to distract.
This is exactly it. And the reality is worse, because it’s not even just “get the coffee out the cupboard”, it sesrch for ten minutes for the coffee in your mess of a kitchen, eventually finding an empty packet, so you get out a new packet but have to wash the scissors to open it, then when you can’t find a a clip for the packet you decide to empty it into a old tin only to realise the tin was already full cause you did the same thing yesterday.
As a fan of teen comedies, I do think about this. If everyone’s going to look 25 and talk in this mature way, why is it even set in a high-school? The two factors I see are:
Once upon a time : by setting a story in a non-realistic / mythic setting, it’s easier to enter into the fiction of it. For adults, it has a nostalgia for a time before responsibilities when everything was possible, but that would be ruined if you had to face up to how akward and useless most teens really are. And for kids these ‘teens’ who look perfect and always know what to say are wish fulfillment. Everyone knows it’s not really like high-school, but peasants and the aristocracy knew that knights were nothing like those dipicted in chavalric ballads, but they both like to imagine that they were for different reasons.
Bottle episode : High school is a super convient writing drvixe, because you have these characters who have freedom and independence enough to move the story forward, but it’s also super easy to restrict any option that makes things difficult. There’s no need to worry about too many social circles, or why the characters don’t just do x or y. If you want a group of friends, who basically only interact with each other, it’s plausible enough. Even in college that’s harder to do, unless it’s a very small, exclusive group (like The Secret History) and even then it feels intentionally insular and incestuous in a way that a high-school clique doesn’t.
I’m not defending corporate culture, and it’s bullshit. But if you’re in a job that requires thinking, not just physical labour, there is a fair amount of research that’s shows that people do significantly better work when they have intrinsic motivations than extrinsic (like money).
Even if you’re doing a job you would quite today if you didn’t need the money, there’s probably a bunch of intrinsic motivations that are there, even if they’re small compared to “need cash”. Maybe you care about your teammates and don’t want to let them down (at least that one guy, the rest are dicks), maybe you have a sense of pride in your competence and don’t want to produce shit (pity that management get in the way most of the time) , maybe you want the company do be successful (because otherwise you’d have to get naothe job).
If you find genuine motivations, even if you have to be circumspect in how you express them, it’ll be easier for your bosses to trust you. If someone is honestly and openly saying they’re only here for money, then I can infer that they will do the least possible work that won’t get them fired. So I’ll need to constantly be supervising them and checking their work because if I don’t they’ll cut corners and ruin everything. I can’t let the talk to clients or even other staff because they could be hugely negative about the company and cause problems. It’s just not worth it. From the c-suite perspective, they know that everyone saying how important work is and how much they believe in the company are full of shit.
It’s basically the opposite of addictive. Addictive stuff is easy, because it quickly becomes a “need” not just something you theoretically want to do but can’t really be bothered right now.
Even ‘fun’ stuff like TV shows, I can ‘want’ to catch up on shows, or finish the series I was loving, but if its down to choosing and making myself get round to it, I won’t. But when suddenly I get a hyper focus on some old show and I binge forty episodes in a weekend it’s ‘easy’. What’s hard is stopping, which I guess means I’m kinda in addict mode (until I overdo it and get board and abandon the watchthrough a few episodes from the end).
Yeah, that’s the thing. It’s perfectly possible to have botfree communities, but not without giving up an amount of anonymity and privacy.
But I do have hope that bot-hating privacy-loving lemmy community will be able to come up with a solution!
It’s not crazy to be concerned or even feel anxiety about not being able to tell if a post is a bot or a person. But being wildly hyperbolic isn’t helping anyone.
I’ve been chatting on the Internet since the days of usenet, and back then there was no algorithm, or advertising or any motivation to drive engagement beyond our natural human desire to communicate. And it really wasn’t that different than lemmy. You still got trolls, bullshit and unreasonable political takes, as well as genuine questions, thoughtful answers and useful information.
Real world personal development and action are important, and you should definitely prioritise that over chatting to strangers on the Internet. But “scribo ergo sum”, I know I’m here asking questions and appreciating answers and discussions, and I know other humans irl who use lemmy, so it would seem logical that some (perhaps most) of the users here are humans and they too may appreciate my answers and discussion.
It’s not that I think your trolling. I don’t understand the question. What does house trained mean in this context? How is it different from controlled?
Similarly, I don’t understand what you mean by “allowing the kill and conquer to rampage”.
I would settle for it being seen as okay to vary your own dose. I’m on quite a high dose, and very much need it. But there are some situations (on holiday and just having a lazy poolside day) where I could take less. But despite being up with various doctors it doesn’t seem like an option to them.
Fortunately, I’ve ended up with some different doses because of the meds shortage (getting 2 packs of 20mg instead of 1 pack of 40mg) which let’s me do it myself, but seems crazy how little flexibility there is for a dose level that was entirely decided by me trying them and saying which one worked best.
Sure, movies pay more than panel shows, but you get lots of women working as extras, even though it really doesn’t pay well and involves of lot of hassle.
But more importantly, why do you think that women are more sensitive or opposed to waiting around? Not sure it’s a trait or stereotype that aligns with my experience. Guys can be plenty impatient and think they’re too important to wait around like a pleb.
I doubt it’s a big factor. Pretty much any big event or any TV stuff is going to involve a bunch of dicking about. Hollywood is full of actresses, and lots of them have to turn up on set at 5am to get into makeup and wait around for six hours before getting told the shooting schedule has changed and they won’t be needed til tomorrow.
What interface/appnare you using? On boost its exactly the same process for upvotes or downvotes. I don’t think an extra step would make any difference, I don’t downvote very often and when I do it’s because I think it’s worth doing.