Both adults.
I have other things to care about.
I’ve seen it before. Never seen it work out, but I have seen it. How do I feel about it? Assuming it’s an otherwise healthy relationship with good communication and there’s no abuse, I personally couldn’t care less. I have no idea what those two people would have in common in terms of personality, interests, or goals, but that’s not my business.
The problem is that every time I’ve seen it, the power balance is incredibly lopsided. Generally an insecure older person who projects strength and wisdom and a troubled younger person who craves stability and authority. The older one usually gets controlling and jealous and the younger eventually catches on and uses that jealousy to manipulate the older person. It’s always a toxic mess when it gets to that point.
Mostly that it’s none of my business. Don’t see how that big of a gap really works out long term but if they’re happy I’m happy. 25 is old enough to have a good enough idea of how things work to not get taken advantage of (usually).
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Weird for sure. Why do you keep on asking this question in different ways on different accounts? Are you trying to justify it? Is it a fetish?
Inquiring minds want to know!
I feel like it’s none of my business.
I’d have some questions for the 46 year old. Mainly “can’t find someone your own age who’s naive enough to put up with your shit?”.
Call it ageism, but at 40 I can’t look at a 25 year old and see an equal adult. That’s still a kid in my head even if legally and practically speaking they’re an adult. I see a lot of dudes my age and older going after 20-25 year olds because their abusive tactics don’t work on older women.
That’s is so totally my ex wife. I was 17 and she was thirty.
Now I’m nearly 40 and over the years it’s been quite obviously why she needed 17 year old.
I’ve dated women a bit older than sense then but it’s different if I’m 30 and they are 50. It’s not the same power imbalance
Whatever, but with that kind of gap there is a power imbalance whether you see it or not.
It’s not about the age gap. They’re adults. The same rules apply to any relationship. If nobody’s being manipulated, abused, taken advantage of or harmed, then people need to mind their own business.
Gross. It would take a lot to convince me there isn’t a power imbalance. Those are 2 significantly different life stages. I would never be able to trust the older person here.
I’d raise an eyebrow
There are a mountain of realizations,experience and personal admiration choices in-between those ages. In my experience, I can’t look past that over a kinship with a younger individual.
Am I, or someone I love, the 46 year old, or the 25 year old?
The only time I would care is if the answer to the first question is “yes” or if one of the parties isn’t acting consensually… Otherwise, its not any of my business, as they’re both consenting adults.
If more people worried about themselves, and less about what others are doing, the world would be better off.
Mind ya business, people.
You can fuck off with this question too, Stacy#2.
When I was in my 20s, I viewed people in their 40s-50s as parental or even grandparently figures. As an older person, I would be open to dating someone in their 20s if we had a great connection, but I wouldn’t make a move unless they expressed an interest first because I wouldn’t want to be creepy or make them uncomfortable.
