About two seconds after that booty clap

it may have been, yeah. I know I first heard it back in the eighties.

My understanding, and it is completely casual, layman level understanding, is that patriarchy started around the birth of property and inheritance.

There’s plenty of evidence (that someone already linked to a layman’s level article) showing that our earliest societies didn’t have gendered hierarchy at all, and that it wasn’t all patriarchal when it started.

But for the most part, the control of women was only a useful thing once the need to have control over inheritance became important. If you don’t have land or wealth to pass on, then there’s really no point to one sex/gender being dominant to another. There isn’t a point to it in that regard in my opinion, since I don’t view biological offspring to be more worthy of inheritance than otherwise, but some people did care, especially when leadership came with a great deal of ownership as well.

Afaik, that’s when patriarchy became something that was etched into laws and religion. When the leadership, and thus ownership, was passed down, and the passing went from father to son. When that’s in place, controlling reproduction becomes paramount, and to control reproduction, you have to control women since while you couldn’t prove who someone’s father was way back then, it was hella hard to fake who gave birth.

First and foremost, dog training is language training.

You aren’t really teaching them to do things, you’re teaching them to understand the sounds and movements you make when you want them to do things.

This means that regardless of anything else, you have to be consistent in both the execution of and understanding of what language you’re using.

Example: you say sit when training with a calm voice and a little lilt at the end. But in daily life, you say sit sharply and without the hand gesture you’d been using during lessons. When that’s the case, you can’t blame the dog for not understanding automatically that you want them to do the thing you used different words for.

Animals don’t process language the same way we do, but we can still run into problems understanding what someone else wants us to do when they say it in an unusual way. Why would a dog magically understand the difference between “sit, puppy”, “puppy, sit”, and/or “dammit, why won’t you sit?!”

Consistency is how we learn languages as humans, and we have sections of our brain dedicated to language that are very developed compared to even our closest relatives in the animal kingdom.

The flip side of that is that you have to train yourself at the same time as the dog. You have to train yourself in the commands you want them to connect with a behavior. Make sure you learn how you’re saying things, and any secondary or tertiary signals are included.

Example: if you want the dog to eventually know that the word sit, a hand gesture, and a tone of voice mean you want them to sit, you have to consistently use those commands. Eventually, even the dumbest dog will figure out that any of those commands mean you want their butt on the floor, but if you aren’t consistent with them, it’ll take longer.

Remember, that dog hears your words and tone, sees your movements and posture, and reads your facial expressions. *All" of those are part of the command you’re teaching them to respond to with a specific behavior.

That’s why a lot of trainers have a process of introducing those things in a controlled and specific way.

And, if you deviate from the command you actually taught (like screaming word sit while making angry face, bent over and shaking a finger at them instead of the usual), don’t be mad at them for not responding to this totally new and different signal grouping with a behavior you taught them with a different combination of signals.

You know the difference between a garbanzo bean and a chickpea?

!can’t pay fifty for a garbanzo to bean on my face!<

Jokes aside, yes to both, though the jelly bean would be flavor specific like any oddity would.

People do add sweet things to chill, and it works rather well. This includes things that are within your typical jellybean flavor range. Pretty much any jelly would be fine in small amounts (and pepper jelly really is one of those “secret” ingredients that folks love to pretend isn’t obvious). When that’s the case, a standard jellybean is going to be okay in similarly small amounts. I’m dubious that licorice ones would work, but I have been exposed to chili with anise before, and it wasn’t horrible.

I definitely wouldn’t want bubblegum flavored jellybeans in my chili, but the rest? Eh, I’d be down to try them.

As everyone has essentially said, ain’t no such thing as bad beans for a chili. And that goes for stuff you might not think of as being good in chill. But I’ve cobbled together chili out of some seriously depleted pantries over the years, and I swear that any legume I’ve run across has worked, to some degree or another. Only question wound be the best prep for a given bean.

No bullshit, ive done it with limas, lentils, and peas at various points in time, and they all worked fine. Different, yes, but still quite nice

Yo! Worthers have always been bomb!

Not improv like it used to be?

Dude, it’s sketch comedy. It’s always been scripted, it’s just that it’s okay to go off script as needed. It’s been that way since the beginning.

I mean, not every cast member is actually good for sure, and that’s been true since the beginning too. But that’s totally different from what you’re saying.

I’m with you that weekend update has been the most reliable part of the show since Che and Jost have been the chairs though. Imo, the best or second best WE hosts in the entire run (depending on exactly which era of the various WE teams you look at, but I’d say Che and Jost have been the most consistent).

And, while I think the term cringe has been so over used that it’s time to bury it, SNL has largely been about being cringe the entire time. To do live sketch comedy, you have to embrace being stupid and awkward. Not every bit is going to hit, so you gotta commit to all of them and that means a ton of cringe is inherent to the process. I mean, fuck, the Shannon/O’Terri/Ferrell era was intentionally cringe on purpose so often it kinda defines that era.

Being real, the guy is one of the most wholesome musicians in pop culture.

I’m not even a fan of his music (except maybe circles), but anything and everything I’ve seen the guy say or do is just so damn nice. He’s always staying positive and respectful to people.

I mean, unless I’ve missed something, the meme is just based on his looks, and that’s pretty fucking stupid

Ehhhh, I tend to think the distances are less important than the fact of the infrastructure being prohibitive to set up.

Trains like that can’t just be dropped onto the existing rail network. I mean, even if the rails p tracks we have would allow them to operate at speed, it would be a nightmare getting them to mesh with existing rail traffic. You’d lose the high speed factor, defeating the purpose.

So, even in individual states, where the distances are closer to what you’d see in japan, it’s not a net practical solution without some serious rejiggering.

You could likely get some lines done anyway, like from D.C. to a few major cities on the east coast. But would there really be a benefit? Would it reduce highway traffic significantly? Would it be safer and more efficient than existing passenger rail? I genuinely have no idea, but there would be a need for that kind of thing to make it worth building out. If it’s just shifting a small fraction of city-to-city commute, I don’t know that or would be worth the massive project it would take

Dude, not the fucking thread for that

Damn. Hard call. There’s only been a few that have hit me because I don’t really have a parasocial connection to anyone to any degree worth mentioning.

That being said, the three that made me actually cry were Vonnegut, Kris Kristofferson, and Chester Bennington.

Chester, I was listening to the one more light album when I found out, so it hit extra hard.

Vonnegut though, he more than any other writer made me think and want to create with words. He shaped how I view literature and think about writing. So his death hit harder than most.

Kristofferson, it’s that I had known it was coming. He’d already been lost to a great degree, but I had been low key dreading the news because he’s so damn iconic. He’s the kind of poet I wish I could be. And his music was also damn good lol. Also, he’s symbolic of an era of music that’s disappeared, and as the last of the highwaymen have died, with only one left there’s this hole in the world that isn’t likely to be filled now that the entire music industry has fallen into disarray. It’s much harder for that kind of poet bard to exist and have their music spread now. In any genre, btw; the same difficulties exist in folk, metal, rap, etc.

Anyway, those are the ones that made me cry as a grown-ass man. I suspect I’ll shed another tear when Willie goes, and I know I’m gonna fall apart a little when Dolly does. Luckily, the next wave of writers and musicians that I’d likely cry over are a good twenty years younger (or more) than them, so I’ll have a break after that. Likely be dead myself before most of the others would go.

Not stupid at all!

Though I’ve heard that the path to being an NP is faster from RN than switching to PA. Might be worth looking at.

Worst case scenario, you end up having to job jump between PA and nursing until you find a job that lets you settle into a specific practice/position. Which is harder in middle age, but isn’t prohibitive imo.

From the patient side of things, an NP or PA with practical experience as a nurse is like gold. An MD might have more education and a broader knowledge base because of that; but nobody can match the hands on, dedicated skills of someone that’s done what you’re proposing. The best providers I have ever had in twenty years plus of disability have been the ones like that. You’ve not only been there and done that, you could teach all of it purely from experience.

So stupid? Hell no! The only stupid part is that the industry is so fucked that an experienced nurse wants to stop doing that job. What you’ll bring to the table is going to help people. That’s never stupid. It will be a harder road for you in some ways (though not as physically brutal as nursing for damn sure), but at least it will be different.

If you decide to go that route, good on you :)

My opinion is that, if you ignore the judeo-christian prudishness, it comes down to two things.

First, some jealousy. It looks like easy money, and they’re having sex (in the case of porn actors), so there’s this almost subconscious anger that someone else found a trick to “get rich”. Thing is with that, the only people getting rich in porn were/are the producers. Only fans shifted that a little, but the company takes a cut like any asshole pimp would. I’ve actually heard people irl express things that lead me to believe this is a common factor.

Second is the fact that a large swath of people, even though otherwise open minded and unconcerned about sex issues, still think that the only reason one would sell their sexuality is because they can’t do better. It’s the whole thing where humans like to piss downhill. Anyone doing something that a person considers “below” them is gong to be seen as inherently flawed. That doesn’t apply only to porn, btw.

Hell, I fall prey to the trope that anyone doing porn must have some kind of trauma, if I don’t pay attention to myself. It is true that porn as it exists in this world is marginalized, and heavily staffed by sufferers of trauma. It actually is one of those jobs where people that have serious mental health problems and/or drug dependency get drawn to because it’s relatively easy to find and keep income compared to other jobs when you have those issues.

Since porn is marginalized, there is a significant portion of the on screen workers that don’t have many other options. It’s super easy for someone young, undereducated, and desperate to end up being paid to show their body or fuck. Since someone in that situation is going to get paid less doing anything else they could find, the industry is heavily weighted towards that population (partially because of the ease of finding desperate people, and mostly because the desperate are easier to exploit and abuse).

Only fans runs closer to neutral since it is based in individuals. So while abuse occurs, and there’s a lot wrong with the company, the real abuse only happens when an outside person is forcing a model or models to perform. Not that porn is free of trafficking and forced labor, but it’s less useful to do that for porn when there’s easier ways to exploit someone there.

That’s my take anyway. It’s based on casual conversations with people that object to porn in its various guises, and the rest from casual exposure to interviews and conversations with adult performers

Looking through the answers so far, I think the only thing not covered is why not the po white folk or other groups.

The simple answer really is that they aren’t black, because when it comes right down to it, any excuse they found to target black people would have excluded other groups except by accident.

But, that misses out on the other factor. The Appalachians aren’t a hotbed of protest and opposition. Folks up in the hills are too poor, too spread out, and too disconnected from external policies on a national level. There’s simply no need to destabilize those communities because they’re not a problem to the people making laws and decisions.

Same with the asian populations you asked about.

Black folks in cities have an advantage that rural people of any color don’t. Numbers in concentration. Even a minority can be a disruption to oppressors when there’s enough in one place. So keeping that population off balance becomes a priority for oppressors. That it’s black people in the U.S. is largely a matter of detail because the same principle would apply everywhere, with any given minority population being a target where that population group is a potential difficult to enforcing power. Like the rohingya or uyghur peoples as recent examples that were in the news.

Now, being real, black people across the world have been oppressed and abused for hundreds of years. So pretty much anywhere they exist, they get shit on in some way.

I prefer to use what’s on the box, no matter what its orientation. That’s because the box usually has a cutter of some kind built in, and the position varies between brands of a given wrap.

Now, I have noticed on average that when the cutter is on the box under the lid (and thus you’d pull down against the box) I get less tears and fucked up edges overall, regardless of quality or brand.

So I guess that’s my preference overall if I could wava a wand and make them all the same

I’m pretty basic. Van Gogh is top for me.

Mind you, Gonsalves ranks right up there along with Magritte and Monet.

I reckon you can guess what “schools” I tend to respond to most lol

In that context, it comes from “crunchy granola”, aka the sort of hippie/hipster that tends to embrace that kind of trendy natural diet. Granola entered the hippie sorts back in the sixties and the terminology came around somewhere in the mid seventies to early eighties.

By the time I was in my teens, it was in use for those retro-hippie sorts that also tended to the more idealized parts of hippiedom. Those kids are now the uncles and aunts (and sometimes even grandparents or great aunts/uncles) referred to.

In that specific context, adding in the aunt/uncle part, it is a positive. However, it’s also a tad condescending, if unintentionally so. That those aunts and uncles are something that needs an extra label to lump them into an outside group is often done because the person doing the lumping thinks they’re better.

Truth? Some of the crunchy granola sorts are dipshits. They’ll eat “natural” even if it isn’t actually healthy. They’ll rattle on about stuff that nobody else present cares about not because that’s who they are, but because they’re evangelizing. So some of the reputation for being hippie-dippie if you’re also crunchy granola is deserved. Same with being a skeevy stoner hippy being often linked to the other labels.

None of my fucking business.

See, that’s the thing about people being grown-ass adults. They get to decide what does and doesn’t work for them.

And, despite people that want to knee jerk the matter, there’s less difference between those two ages than there is between a 21 and 25 year old.

Personal development is heavily front loaded. By the mid to late twenties, most people are who they’ll always be. Friendship, romance, whatever. The only real barrier to age gaps are cultural touchstones and a handful of probable experiences (like job stuff, kids, etc) that aren’t even guaranteed to not be present.

Folks just get all het up over it because they’re morons that can’t look outside of themselves long enough to realize that their motivations and concepts towards other people aren’t actually universal.

Two consenting adults are just fine, and nobody else has an opinion that matters about them

I dunno, even after we got a team close enough to count as home, my choices have always been arbitrary . Mind you, I don’t really get into team sports, but it’s always fun to have a team for casual conversation.

When I was a kid, it was the Jets, the Eagles, the Vikings or the Bengals, depending on the year and my mood. For us football, obviously. All based on their uniforms or logos. As an adult, it’s the Ravens. I just like their logo better.

Celtics for basketball, just because I liked Larry Bird back in the day.

Hockey, it’s the Rangers for no reason other than the name sticks in my head

Football/soccer, it’s Arsenal. Because it’s easy to remember.

Baseball, I tend to go with whatever Sox team pops in my head, or the Dodgers.

Past that, I couldn’t name a team for other sports tbh