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    I lived in Oklahoma for 3 years and it took me ages to find a group of friends who understood sarcasm. I mean, even the drag queen server at my regular bar seemed baffled by sarcasm.

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      I think it was mostly the very religious people who had trouble and there are a LOT of very religious people in Oklahoma.

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    I heard a story from Japan where an American business man was sarcastic and the meeting got quiet. He was like “it’s a joke because-“

    “We got it. We just thought it was inappropriate “

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      Wow this is interesting, I never heard of this. I’m going to have to spend some time learning about it.

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    Oh SURE. That makes so much sense that a culture would lack “sarcasm”. I can TOTALLY see that being a thing.

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    (Not first-hand knowledge) I read somewhere that tonal languages such as Chinese make it difficult to express sarcasm the same way Indo-European languages do, with accent and inflection.

    • (Not first-hand knowledge) I read somewhere that tonal languages such as Chinese make it difficult to express sarcasm the same way Indo-European languages do, with accent and inflection.

      First hand knowledge, I’m Chinese American. My mom is from Taishan and I grew up in Guangzhou for the first 8 years before immigrating to the US. My mom uses scarcasm a lot. We speak Cantonese at home.

      Example:

      “我想去睇橋” (“I wanna go see the bridge”; a euphemism for I want to go to the nearest bridge and jump off to kms, and my mom knows the meaning of this btw)

      Mom: “喂,使唔使載埋你去啊?” (“Hey, do you want us to drive you there?”; said in a very unusally happy and uplifting tone, as if she’d be glad to see me die (I mean… not really, I don’t think she really wants to see me die, I hope not, she’s just playing mindgames to “stop me from ‘attention seeking’”, she doesn’t understand what depression is.)

      Or sometimes I get mad and refused to eat and mom was like: “哇,係唔係想練神仙啊?亦好呀,慳返啲食嘅。” (“Wow, are you trying to become an immortal being? That’s great, we can save some food”; again, with that weird “fake happy” voice.

      And I instictively knew these were sarcasm.

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        Non-tonal simply means the denotation isn’t carried by tone, not that users of the language don’t use tone. It’s an interesting distinction.

        John McWhorter has a few courses in The Great Courses catalog about language - its pretty fascinating stuff. He covers things like tonal languages, and how even for a linguist like himself, they’re tough to learn.

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        True, otherwise it would be monotone, though some people speak in a monotone voice that can put you to sleep.

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          Me as a native finnish speaker making every english speaker in a meeting unsure of my meanig

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              Finnish people are stereotyped to sound monotone, enunciate clearly, speak directly, and tersely. This makes them seem unfriendly.

              And then they expect you to stay 3 m away from them at all times, which intensifies their seeming unfriendliness.

              At least these are the memes.

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              As others explained, finnish is pretty flat and that carries to the other languages I speak. To english mostly, I refuse to speak swedish

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                From what I’ve learned from memes is that there is “enmity” between Swedes and Finns, am I correct?

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      I just did a quick research on tonal languages, it’s quite tricky for a beginner to grasp these subtle expressions. Imagine a life without sarcasm. Brutal. I wonder if they have their own way of conveying it.

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        Oh, they do. Depending on the context, there’s a whole host of ways to imply sarcasm without depending on intonation. Body language, context, double entendre, formality shifts, etc.

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        Sarcasm can be conveyed non-verbally. Through facial expressions, gestures or situational context for example. The core concept is not bound to specific languages but to the social/cognitive ability of the communicators, I’d say. Young children have a very hard time with sarcasm, regardless of where they’re born.

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    It’s sometimes said that Japanese people don’t know and don’t understand sarcasm but really they just have different ways to make you feel stupid that don’t (necessarily) register as sarcasm to Westerners, like being overly polite.

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      I guess Japanese really doesn’t have in-your-face sarcasm now that I think about it…

      Now that you mentioned it, Japanese also has a rather interesting quirk of not having what most people would consider as “swear words”. Read it somewhere that Japanese does have swear words, but they tend to be quite tame, and the words themselves aren’t “taboo” (as compared to just about any swear word in English)

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      I didn’t know that they used politeness that way. Interesting. Crazy enough I have not yet interacted with a Japanese person in my life.

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    I’ve done a little bit of language studying and one thing I heard about repeatedly is that people tend to mistakenly believe in their own exceptionalism.

    Like, their own native language has idioms, and they just assumed that other languages didn’t have idioms.

    But we are all humans and languages are all going to exist in support of human communication. Therefore, you should assume that all languages have all major features of expression, including idioms and sarcasm.

    Similarly, cultures are made from humans and to facilitate human interaction, so you should expect that things like sarcasm will exist in every culture.

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      So sarcasm would exist but not the way we understand it, does it mean that sarcasm is an intrinsic part of human nature?

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        A basic building block to humor is a subversion of expectations. Sarcasm is just stating things as the opposite of the intended meaning. Sarcasm is, in essence, the base level that most humor is built upon, and because of that is looked down on because it is “easy mode.”

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    Definitely China and maybe Japan. In American culture I feel sarcasm is fun banter but coming to China and in Chinese it just makes one look like a jerk. I’m less proficient in Japanese so I cannot fully tell how my sarcasm was taken but I’m assuming a similar reception.

    Look at the translations for sarcasm: 讽刺,反话.

    Looking up the definition of sarcasm in Japanese I have no idea what this kanji is supposed to mean lmao 皮肉

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      I believe 皮肉 means “skin of the meat”, or in other words, superficial. What’s being said is not necrssarily the intent of the words. Or, in other words, sarcasm.