I not only mean it as in ‘french-kissing your partner’, but also things like ‘kissing someone’s hand out of reverence’ and ‘kissing the kids good night’.
I’m Chinese American and my entire family of origin are born in China (including me), parents grew up in Taishan and got married via arranged marriage… and… I never saw my parents kiss… like… NEVER
Their room is open and as a kid, I went to sleep in their room, and like their room door is open I suspect that THEY NEVER HAD SEX except like the two times to create me and my older brother and like they have busy work schedules so I doubt they had time to do it in the day, and at night… well they can’t be fucking when I’m literally sleeping in between them.
Never even saw them HUG
seriously, if they didn’t have kids, the US immigration officials would’ve probably suspected marriage fraud or something lmfao
My parents never really kissed me… I hate that stuff since in my mind, I thought that’s only for romance, but I remember my mom wanted to kiss my cheeks and I was like: “eww saliava” so I refused.
But I did cuddle with mom often as a kid.
One of my aunt said I was clingy to my mom lol
My mom would encourage cuddling.
I remember when I was a kid, I get tired on the NYC subway, and I rest my head on my mom’s lap and sort of take a nap… so like its sort of cuddling, like I’d just lean very close to mom.
My mom would hold my hand as a kid when we walked around on the streets.
In India, it’s a huge taboo to kiss anyone whom you’re not married to. Public affection in general is mostly frowned upon there, and sometimes charged as a crime depending on where you live.
That’s why you never see lovers kiss in Bollywood movies. They always just hug or hold each other at arms length. They would be outraged if two actors who aren’t married to each other kissed on screen.
This is completely at odds with my experience living in India! Does it vary between regions?
Lots of cuts to fireworks displays, crashing waves etc.
Fun fact! I never knew!
I have an affection for Bollywood movies and I’m really happy to learn this, thanks!
'Murican male culture isn’t real keen on kissing. It is reserved for your romantic interest. It would be very inappropriate to give a peck on the cheek or even blow a kiss to a friend or acquaintance.
To clarify, I don’t mean American culture, I mean 'Murica. White Christian small town America.
I’d say even outside of MAGA this isn’t really done. Maybe no one would object but I can’t say I really see it.
I don’t know that I’d describe that as exclusively 'Murican…
No, but there are so many American sub cultures, I didn’t want to try to include them all or speak for any others.
Fwiw, it’s really refreshing to see this acknowledged.
Kissing can definitely be weird in the US but it kinda depends: Kissing a kid on the forehead? Ok. Kissing a kid on the lips? Weird.
On a related note: Don’t kiss babies at all because, regardless of the culture they live in, their immune systems are still developing - don’t let anyone kiss your baby even if they claim they’re healthy (imagine having lifelong herpes because your parent let some dipshit kiss you when you were a baby). Don’t give an infant honey either.
If you are ‘hoping’ to find one. The answer is more that you will find that in other individuals. Everywhere has some people that are personally averse to it. And it’s ok if you are too, you will have to advocate a bit, but most people will be accepting of it.
The main political figure at the time of UAE was asked about their feelings towards gays, and he said they were fine with gays, just don’t allow public displays of affection, no matter who it is. I don’t know how true that is, I’m just passing along what he said.
Cultures enduring a plague
Fun fact: a handshake transfers more viruses and bacteria than a kiss, especially one on the cheek.
How do I tell my kids that I can’t give them a firm handshake goodnight anymore?
How will your kids negotiate their household chores and allowance if they can’t give you a firm handshake?
With a fistbump.
Transfers, yes, but if you’re careful, those germs on your hands will never get to your face, but a kiss is direct infection.
herpes and EBV are more common from the mouth but wrestlers can spread herpes through hands as well.
I doubt you can get EBV from a kiss on the cheek. There’s usually some more tongue action involved.
Herpes maybe.
id reckon that a handshake on the cheek might also transfer a sense of discomfort
