I just saw your post during a meeting and I’m about to apply this mantra now

I read some piece of advice a while back (on lemmy I think) about when to talk, “Does it need said? Does it need said right now? Does it need said by you?” and it really stuck with me.

I’m definitely a talker, and my friends and family will talk all day. But I know my partner can find it a bit much, so having a basic rule has been surprisingly helpful. I might want to tell him about the intresting thing that I read, but does he really want to hear that? We might need to talk about something important but stressful, maybe bringing it up just before bed isn’t the best idea?

It is all pretty obvious stuff, but I spent three decades only really spending time with people who talked all the time too. I didn’t need to worry about bringing something up at the wrong time, because if I did, they would immediately say “oh I don’t want to talk about that because…” and explain or change the subject. I didn’t worry about a conversation being uninteresting, because if it was we’d quickly tangent into something that worked for us both.

That’s why I stfu in public.

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dOn’T tAlK uNlEsS yOu CaN iMpRoVe ThE sIlEnCe

This is how arrogant and pretentious people act when on their high horses. You’d better stfu yourself.

Where were you when someone told me to watch the video of the guy with the mason jar?

If you meet a great swordsman, show him your sword.

If you meet a man who is not a great poet, remain silent.

Yes, but what is an improvement if silence. If I want to gossip about neighbour a with neighbour b, is that better than silence? It is to my mom.

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Hush little baby don’t you cry…