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    Of course she forgives him. In a split second she went from an enslaved conservative wife, to a multi millionaire to top tier conservative grifter candidate. She literally spent a solid chunk of her speech talking about how married women aren’t slaves. I have literally never heard anyone say this kind of thing at a funeral before. These people are vile, and they tell on themselves constantly.

    She’s absolutely set for life now, and I look forward to all of the future tabloid fodder about her and all of the vile Christian men in her circle who will try to get a piece of that action in the coming years.

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    When an evangelical christian ‘forgives’ you for something, what that actually is is them forgiving themselves for literally anything they do to you after that.

    That is them saying that you are totally lost, do not count as a real human being with agency, and thus anything further they do to you is justified, because in their minds, you are not capable of making sensible decisions.

    It is a threat, framed deceptively as kindness, and yes, they know they are lying.

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        Solidarity to a another survivor, though we’re probably from different sides of the continent, and the doctrine and rituals may differ somewhat, the underlying psychology is largely the same at its core.

        ‘Well, bless your heart’ + a shit eating grin ain’t exactly a common saying where I’m from, but I know exactly what it means.

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          Escaped a long time ago. I never bought religion. So I enjoyed those sentiments and socially sanctioned holier than thou shunning for decades. Thankfully up north now.

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      I’m not saying she hasn’t actually forgiven him, but I will say I doubt genuine forgiveness for the killing of one’s spouse is happening under a month in, given forgiveness requires actually processing the harm done, and that actions are far easier than words. Will she call for him to be shown mercy rather than death? Will she work to heal divides? Will she condemn calls for retaliation?

      It’s so easy to say that you forgive someone then allow others to retaliate in full force. But the forgiveness Christians are supposed to have is modeled by a dying christ pleading for mercy for his killers.

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        It’s performative. It makes her look magnanimous, which feeds her vanity. It’s like praying in public to signal how holy you are.

        As you alluded, forgiveness is reflected in your works. Asking for mercy, urging calm, etc. But she’s not doing any of those things. Why?

        Bear with me for a moment on something. I’m not religious myself, but one of the biggest problems with the evangelical Christian faith is the belief that a person is saved through faith alone (sola fide), rather than both faith and works like the Bible itself makes clear.

        John 14:14-17:

        What does it profit, my brethren, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can faith save him? If a brother or sister is naked and destitute of daily food, and one of you says to them, “Depart in peace, be warmed and filled,” but you do not give them the things which are needed for the body, what does it profit? Thus also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead.

        While I’m sure Luther believed the doctrine of sola fide genuinely, it was certainly advantageous if you were trying to win converts if you didn’t have to do anything. It’s a hollow, easy philosophy invented by Paul. It’s certainly not the first time Paul would advocate for a doctrine based on its ability to win converts more easily; cf. Paul’s ministry to the Gentiles regarding circumcision.

        I think this is the root of a lot of problems with evangelical Christianity and the people who espouse it.

        I have difficulty seeing purity in someone who pays themselves $12 million per year (as Kirk allegedly did) to run a company whose mission is to indoctrinate students early on with propaganda rooted in hate and misogyny. When they live in a mansion. When they join themselves at the hip with a cruel authoritarian bully.

        Sorry, their works thus far are evidence enough for me.

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        She has not truly forgiven him, she is being a manipulative psycopath.

        She will not press for mercy, she will not work to heal divides, beyond possibly those within the right wing so as to shore up the basis of her own political power.

        And she absolutely will not condemn calls for retaliation, unless a scenario arises where she personally would stand to lose social status or material wealth by not doing so.

        She is a heartless fascist, sure, she has emotions, but her whole life is mostly all about learning how to weaponize that.

        Just as horny men grovel and simp for a woman showing skin, ‘Godly’ men have a perfect excuse to be extremely angry when they witness a ‘Good Christian Woman’ making a show of being distraught, but tough, and ultimately leaving it all up to God.

        Its like move 1, page 1, on the sympathy generating playbook for these people.

        While Gandhi is a much more uh, morally complex figure, shall we say, than a lot of people know about, and this quote may be apocryphal, it nevertheless roughly sums up how I feel about Christian extremists:

        “I like your Christ, I do not like your Christians. Your Christians are so unlike your Christ.”

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          You’re most likely correct, but it can be wise to show not tell. When we assert what forgiveness looks like and give her the opportunity to show it, we come off looking better than her, but when bystanders see her saying she has forgiveness and us calling her a psychopathic fascist we look worse than her. You bring up ghandi, and this media game is more or less how his nonviolent protests worked

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            Mass televised or otherwise public grieving is almost never sincere, at the very least, it is almost never healthy.

            Grieving, truly processing a loss, is done in private, or with a few close friends or family… it is a process of self reflection and self exploration, not self projection.

            The other element here is the rank hypocrisy with the religious context and framing and the other speeches she has allowed to occur here, which she surely knew would be given, and at least largely endorsed.

            A whole lot of Jesus’ sayings are about how one should practice their faith in private, one should lend to charity anonymously.

            There is a solid undercurrent of discretion, of not making grand public displays of faith, of your own self righteousness, etc.

            … Would you invite a bunch of bombastic hate mongers to the funeral of your loved one, agree to have it as a mass public hate rally?

            Or would you prefer a smaller, private gathering, and to… be given some space, for a bit, with occasional checkins or close friends on standby for help if needed?


            As to me calling her display psycopathic as bad PR:

            You may note that I am not blasting that message outward to millions of people.

            You may note I have not accompanied that messsge with a jubilant mocking video and audio display over her husband’s death, nor likewise with a snobbishly toned monologue rantsona dripping with venom in my voice.

            Looking like around 30 ish people is my audience size.

            For reading some text.

            Intentionally leaving intonation and body language and speech timbre and tempo soley up to the reader.

            If anything, what I intend to convey is solemnity.


            PR is not even close to the same as how I actually feel.

            How I actually feel is terrified on a grand societal level, genuine concern for the safety and well being of millions likely to be seriously harmed by what her display, and the rest of it, presages.

            I did not instantly jump on TikTok like a vengeful spirit and record a snarky video of myself celebrating Kirk’s death.

            What I actually did was go into a PTSD shock / panic attack episode for an hour, upon seeing, up close in HD, the column of blood erupt from his neck, the life leave his eyes basically instantly, because I have seen too much shit like that already in the real, it has scarred my psyche.

            I do perhaps share your fear of bad PR, but at a very, very deep and visceral level…

            And for myself, what I would absolutely never wish to convey is any kind of performative inauthenticity.

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            Christians are pretty horrible, tbqh. Especially American Christians. I mean, they overwhelmingly support a convicted felon and adjudicated rapist who is a poster boy for every deadly sin and are using the federal government to force their beliefs on everyone else.

            So maybe you could just open your fucking eyes or something.

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      That section of the far right is basically why Kirk was doing a “comeback tour” they’ve been harassing him for years.

      It’s a safe bet she understands that the shooter was another faction of the far right and that if people keep talking about it, the well dries up. Because she’s lived for years with their harassment

      When right wingers think “a leftist” killed him, they give blindly

      They figure out a right-winger killed a right-winger, and they’ll all start picking sides.

      trump is so anxious to push this, he’s going to fuck around and people will hear what really happened. Especially since the shooter has zero reason to try for a plea deal now.

      He’s taking it to trial and going on the stand, because every politician involved has said they want the death penalty.

      The shooter literally has nothing to lose.

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        He’s taking it to trial and going on the stand, because every politician involved has said they want the death penalty.

        Is this speculation or has there been a statement?

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          About if they’re going to push for the death penalty? Yes, the governor and Trump have both explicitly called for it, and the judge told him it was on the table when reading him his charges

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              Oh… I misread that as taking a stand, but that seems unlikely seeing as he’s just been provided a lawyer. That’s a very bold move in a case like this, and this is negligently early in the process to decide that

              With how much misinfo there is in this case, I wouldn’t believe it unless it comes from the lawyer directly

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          He was killed at the scene almost immediately…

          The one who was going to shoot him on a golf course, I believe is trying to represent himself in court.

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    This dumb fucking rapist couldn’t even keep it about a memorial to a shit stain that was murdered.

    Had to weaponize it and make it about himself and further push his civil war agenda he wants so badly that’s already started.

    Fuck sakes.

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      Of course he had to, that was the entire point of it all. This was a huge Nuremberg rally in memory of their Horst Wessel.

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        He was a bad person, but the full quote should still be presented.

        “I can’t stand the word empathy, actually. I think empathy is a made-up, new age term that — it does a lot of damage. But, it is very effective when it comes to politics. Sympathy, I prefer more than empathy. That’s a separate topic for a different time.”

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          It’s curious that a master debater would put forth the notion that empathy is a “made-up” or “new age” term. But that’s assuming this guy was ever “debating” in good faith.

          By the way, “new age” is frequently a term that I’ve seen the hard right xtianists toss around. Seems to be a way of in-group signaling that xtianists like to use, especially in mixed company or when they don’t want to scare away people they are trying to red-pill. Behind closed doors, they’d rather go hard and just say it’s witchcraft or occultism, etc. But they seem to be constantly worried about their pure xtian America is getting infected by new age stuff…

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            So, its kinda complicated, but yes, generally, when middle aged or older American diehard Christians refer to New Age, they… basically are referring to anything that involves the word ‘quantum’ or ‘yoga’ or …

            You know what, maybe an easier way to explain this would be to say that almost anything on Gaia or GaiaTV or whatever its called… thats ‘New Age’ to them.

            Anything involving a grander sort of… spiritual hierarchy to the world, that isn’t directly from the Bible, anything with an ‘Ascended Master’ or involves a way of mediating your way into enlightenement, in a kind of systemitized and mystic way.

            So… its not quite the same as your more tradtional bogey men of Satanism and Witchcraft. Neither of which most Christians actually understand correctly at all, but that doesnt matter to them, as these are all enemy groups that they rarely know anything at all about other than their own invented paranoid fears.

            But, even this is… wiggly, diffuse, inexact.

            With the rise of the internet… a whole lot of younger people are basically melding their favorite notions from Christianity and New Age stuff into … their own versions of what they call Christianity.

            Like uh, when I was raised in the 90s, by fairly extreme Christians… the Zodiac was evil sorcery, horoscopes and tarot were signs you were a witch.

            But now… its…not. With mainly the younger tiktok crowd of Christians. They have somehow worked this into their idea of Christianity.

            Same with manifesting.

            In my day, manifesting would have beem seen probably as New Age heresy, spiritual poisoning, presuming yourself more powerful than the will of God, you should be praying to God, not acting like you are God, etc.

            But… now… there are tons of younger people who call themselves ardent Christians and who also earnestly believe in the idea of manifesting, manipulating reality via your internal will/intention alone.

            Anyway, I blame Helena Blavatsky for all this, lol, I am fairly sure you can historically trace almost every New Age concept or teacher or way of thinking back to her, and Theosophy.

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              But now… its…not. With mainly the younger tiktok crowd of Christians. They have somehow worked this into their idea of Christianity.

              I think this kind of thing comes in waves. You had lots of little xtian denominations that had offshoots in the 60s and 70s (as I understand it) that incorporated things that originated in the “occult”. This stuff was hardly new then, either, as you point out, with people like Blavatsky (and the Golden Dawn and Crowley and Steiner, etc). Prior to that bunch, you had spiritualists and Mormons. Before that, you had things like Rosicrucians and Freemasons and John Dee/Edward Kelly…

              But it definitely had a revival (again) in the 60s and started to spread in the 70s and you had the inevitable reaction from the militant fundamentalist types, and it manifested in ways like the 80s Satanic Panic…I think when these people start talking a certain way about certain things/groups, using terms like “new age” (and more laughingly, misused terms like “pagan”, or pronouncing other xtians members of a “cult”), I think it’s partly out of a frustration that not enough people are leaping up to join them to fight against this incursion of what they think is spoiling their “pure” religion…

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    Yeah, because the guy that put a hole through her husband’s neck made her even richer, which is all she cares about. She probably likes him more than she liked Kirk.

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      She told her daughter that “Daddy is on a business trip with Jesus so he could afford her blueberry budget”. Fucking evil.

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    how can she forgive his killer when we don’t know who it is? (also when it was probably actually the government lol)

    also, don’t care erikkka, you’re still a nazi

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    I like how all these brave defenders of freedom somehow manage to never actually serve in the military.

    Kirk applied to West Point, and when he didn’t make the cut blamed everyone but himself. He could have joined the Army and gone through OCS, but decided that it was better to let other people die for his freedom.

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      I’d like to point out that a person does not have to serve in the military in order to actual defend our freedoms. In fact, I’d argue that there have been very few people in the military since WW2 to have actually fought for our freedoms.

      But you know who did fight for our freedoms? Who literally took a bullet for our freedoms, but still kept fighting? Larry Flynt. He did more to protect our 1st Amendment rights than any living politician (at least that I can think of at the moment).

      We need more heroic, piece of shit, smut peddlers like Larry Flynt… when America looks in the mirror, he is who we should see reflected.

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        According to a quick check Larry tried to join the army at age 15 and was rejected. He later served in the Navy.

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      Or he could have gone to any senior military college which gives you a commission on graduation.

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      trump flatout said he’s going to take her dead husbands company…

      If she’s smart, she is a foe of trump. Because trump won’t hesitate to steal from a widow and children

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      Conflicting messages is baked in. The enemy is so strong we have to be prepared to fight every day, and so weak that they must plot in secret.