Long Haired Men, How Do You Take Care of Your Hair?

It’s my first time growing out my hair. I currently almost have shoulder length hair.

Here’s my dilemma, I usually just stay home and don’t like using product when I’m not going out, my long hair falls down in front of my face blocking my eyes, even reaching my mouth and it’s extremely inconvenient.

I’ve tried using hair ties, but somebody said it eventually leads to a receding hairline.

I’ve also used headbands, but am looking for alternatives.


I’d also appreciate some advice when using product, because sometimes it still falls down and/or becomes flat and lack some volume.

My end goal is to have a slicked back hair.

  • Dandroid@dandroid.app
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    1 year ago

    Hair ties leading to receding hair line reeks of an old wives tale. I would look into actual research on the topic, and if it hasn’t been proven true, assume it is false.

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      1 year ago

      It’s possible, it’s called traction alopecia. It happens from frequent use of hairbands that are tied too tightly. The solution is to use a lightly tied hairband and not use a hairband every day.

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      1 year ago

      No actually if you have a sensible scalp like me, when I tie my hair, after I feel pain in the scalp.

      Apparently keeping your hair tied for to long, can cause some people’s hair to develop cutaneous allodynia.

      Wich basically means you pulled the nerves in your scalps too much

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    1 year ago

    Hey. My hair was pretty long and very nice. Here’s my number one tip: don’t use anything. Normal shampoo, don’t wash too often. No blow-dry, no hard brushes or combs, use soft brushes. The receding hairline is just genetics. Yeah hats and ponytails make it a little faster, but everyone’s hairline will recede.

    For getting the hair out of the way, I also used bandanas sometimes. my long hair dressing up as axl rose

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    1 year ago

    Does care for men’s hair and women’s hair differ? I’m curious to know

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        1 year ago

        In that case, here is my advice to OP for the least time consuming way to care for hair:

        Check your hair type, pick a conditioner you like, and use it always. Long hair doesn’t need to be washed that often, depending on your hair type (mine is somewhat curly so I have a curly hair shampoo and conditioner twice a week). Use the conditioner as specified on the bottle, some may say one should leave it in one or two minutes longer than specified. That way you only have to worry about two products (shampoo and conditioner), and buy them always from the same place. The conditioner will make it more manageable and it’s only a small addition to your hair routine.

        If your hair always falls to the front of your face, consider a change in hairstyle that gives volume to the back and keeps your face hair-free – this is better to discuss with your hair dresser.

        Instead of hairbands, use a hair clamp. They are cheap to buy and replace and the plastic ones are light and nice albeit poor in quality. They are gentler on your hair and can keep it all together in a temporary bun when you need to work/focus/keep your hair out of your face.

        Your hair always being in your face will cause skin problems and more black heads (at least this has always been the case for me and I always have zits in places where my bangs fall and rub against my forehead). Keeping it out of your face will make a huge difference, I promise.

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      1 year ago

      Hormones can definitely influence hair growth and texture, but… neither of those have anything to do with OP’s inconvenient dilemma or incomplete traction alopecia information.

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    1 year ago

    Just use a looser hair tie or one made out of a softer material and don’t tie your hair too tightly. Hair ties can break your hair and cause frizz, but a receding hairline is usually a genetic thing, there’s nothing much you can do about it outside of checking with a dermatologist for some treatment.

    As for your second question, to have more volume the best option is to get a haircut with some layering, it helps to create volume. The other thing you can do it is use a leave-in conditioner to help style your hair, apply just a coin sized amount (maybe even less) to your hair from the middle of it’s lenght to its tips, applying too much will make your hair flat, it will help keep it in place with some volume. Your other option is to use some hair pomade to keep it in place, but it can look wet if you use too much.

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    1 year ago

    I’ve had hair past my shoulders on and off for more than a decade in total over the last 30 years.

    It is basically always pulled back in a hair tie and as @glad_cat has said, no receding hair line here.

    I use no product in it at all and wash/condition it once a week. I regularly have women comment that they wish their had hair as healthy as mine and ask what products I use. My reply is always none.

    My hair is super strait, so it is always flat. meh. That’s what it is.

    From what I have found, the less you fuck with it. The better it is.

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    1 year ago

    A receding hairline, apart from genetics, might happen when you tie your hair very, very tight. A loose tail would not be an issue.

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      1 year ago

      Same here. I wish it had a different name since it might be confusing for guys with curly looking to take the best care of it, but it’s basically a product recommendation system to make sure your curly hair is healthy and you aren’t using products that might damage or dry it out.

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    1 year ago

    Not a man but hair ties leading to receding hairlines is referencing traction alopecia. Basically you pull your hair so tight it gets ripped out at the front over and over resulting in more or less the equivalent of how folks who plucked their eyebrows for years had them stop growing back.

    My recommendation as a long haired woman who doesn’t like her hair in her face is hair ties in loose buns/ponytails (best practice is to switch it up from time to time so you don’t wind up with friction damage on the same place) and hair clips once it’s long enough for them.

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    1 year ago

    Isn’t the receding hairline thing if you tie the ponytail too tight to the point that your hair looks like it’s trying to be freed from your scalp?

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      I don’t know if that will cause a receding hair line because doing that is painful as shit and will give you a headache in about 30 minutes…so guys with long hair don’t do it.

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    Long hair since forever now.
    So:

    1. Brush it every day at least. Twice if neccessary. Brush it before you wash it to get the entangled fallen out hair off and after you washed your hair. Washing it will entangle it again.
    2. Find out how often you need to wash the hair. Curly hair gets frizzly if washed too often, oily hair obviously gets hard to manage if washed too infrequently.
    3. Just use a shampoo and conditioner that makes your hair feel right. You’ll know what I mean. Do not use the typical “15 in 1 and it wil cook you diner” things marketed for men. They are usually super aggressive and with menthol and shit… Don’t let them control you with your masculinity. I have a shampoo that smells of almonds and vanilla and makes my hair silky. I like it.
    4. Hair bands will not affect your hairline. If so, every woman with a braid would go bald. Baldness in men is triggered by some gene-BS, not by you pulling on your hair
    5. If you want to restrain your hair, but not clamp it down so to say, use those telephone-wire-like hairbands. They’ll do just that. I can’t use them because my thick hair will just laugh at me and push the band away
    6. Get a tangle teezer. Thank me later.
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      Dude with curly long hair here. This is 100% my experience. Pay special attention to #3. You are going to need the right products and finding them will take time. And they will be expensive. And their bottles will be girly as fuck.

      Also, and that might be superstition, I like to alternate between products. When I come back to a product after a month or so it always feels like it works better.

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      1 year ago

      What does a tangle teezer do? I often see them being recommended.

      can you post a picture of that telephone hair band thing, I don’t know what that is.

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    Use shampoo, and conditioner to avoid split ends. Cut the ends every half a year or so to avoid looking frizzy (ask your friends or a haircutter for advise). You can use hairbands. In fact you can just use a hairband just for the hair in the front to allow you to still have to mane.

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      1 year ago

      For frizziness, the only two things that have worked are anti-frizz gel and hydrating hair food. Lots of it was caused by my hair being too dry.

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        I’ve begun applying 2-4 drops of oil to the tips of my hair after bath. The idea is, that your scalp will oil up and protect the rest of the hair, but usually doesn’t manage to apply the protective layer to your hair ends before next bath.