The fact that you are using the word “submissive” in regards to your day to day actions indicates that there is something very weird about you, but probably not what you think it is.

Please help us understand by giving examples

what the fuck does any of this mean?

i wonder if i am so out of touch, or people today are really really this insane/self absorbed.

are you also angry at yourself when you eat because your hungry? or that you use the bathroom when you have to poo?

or should you being more passively-pooping? why not get a colonoscopy bag surgically installed that way you can be passively pooping forever?

Its kinda strange because im used to submissive/dominant and passive/agressive. Assertive is just sorta a need based thing. Im certainly someone who is more comfortable doing things myself or assiting someone rather than directing someone to do X. There are just situations where you have to rely on others though. In most places I worked things are done by department and group and for various specific things you can’t do them yourself. Sometimes due to a lack of knowledge, and sometimes due to a lack of user rights, and sometimes because the rules say so. You have to then make the requests or whatnot. If I need help at a store I need help. So I try to find someone and ask. If not then im out the door and they lost a sale or whatever.

It is completely normal.

I have no idea what passively assertive is but what you should do is learn when to be “alert” as you call it.

When I am at work I am ready to go. When I am at home I am zoned out and not dealing with it unless it is time to. When I am driving,I am ready to go. When I am chilling on the stairmaster I am in the zone and focused only on the next step.

I have a feeling there might be someone who wants to put you under unnecessary pressure in specific situations. Maybe tell them to just fuck off in general