Basically when I’m relaxed I act submissively but only when I’m on the alert I am assertive. It’s like when someone asks you a math question out of the blue versus when you know you have to be ready for one.
Is this normal? Or should I try being more passively assertive?
The fact that you are using the word “submissive” in regards to your day to day actions indicates that there is something very weird about you, but probably not what you think it is.
Please help us understand by giving examples