[Reposting since my other account seems shadowbanned(?). I’m sorry if you are seeing this again]
I am one of those who are in their twenties and never had a partner (unless you count that one odd semi edating stuff I got going at one time). And thus never felt touch of a partner or their love lol.
Well in my teens, I never had these feelings this high and I always felt focusing on my studies was the best so I had myself distracted all the time. Love was a foreign concept.
Even now it does feel like one, but after a long online situationship( ? idk what you call it) I feel it unlocked something in me. I have been feeling stuff I haven’t felt before and this had me trying to watch some romcoms which I never did in my teenage. But these don’t really sit with me and idk how to deal with the random waves of endearing for a loving partner (my teenage self of me is still cringing at this while I type >W<) .
So what are some ways to quench off this particular thrist (without, obviously, getting a gf)?
Note: I will look for a gf in the long run for sure, I’m only looking at alternative ways of dealing with these feelings.
Kinda just sounds like the new-ish reality of younger and terminally online folks who have passed on IRL relationships and are just experiencing things you probably should have through normal socializing in your teens.
These are breakup feelings. You just have to feel it, recognize what it is, understand what it is, and work through it CONSTRUCTIVELY. Don’t be a fucking dick, don’t get overly emotional. It might suck, but it’s not the first or last time you’ll feel it if you’re feeling it now. Just try and go about your life, fix mistakes, keep your other relationships healthy, and you’ll eventually find another situation that works better for you.
True. I really missed out on the average teenage experiences thinking it would be beneficial for me not to indulge in such experiences to focus on my studies. In the end, I didn’t get much out of the studies either lol as I couldn’t land a job in my specialisation.
Sucks to suck but I have come to terms on this as not everyone’s teenage experiences have to the same and it’s fine if I end up on the shorter end of the stick. There’s a lot more to life (hopefully) than just your student days.
Yeah, I assumed these are feelings of a breakup and I’ll just try to keep myself busy till time heals everything. Thanks.
One dose of realism here: time doesn’t heal anything. The experiences you have during that time contextualize your current experience.
So if you spend years waiting for the feeling to subside to do something else, nothing will change. You have to get out there and have new experiences that help you make sense of the existing ones.
Hobbies that involve scheduled events where you interact with others help a lot.