• jaybone@lemmy.zip
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    You don’t have to be gay to be an asshole. Plenty of straight people, gay people, cis people, people of color, trans people can be fascists and assholes. It’s not like being LGBTQ gives you some kind of a pass to be a dickhead.

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      Then why the need to insert gay sex into it? The whole “Trump sucks off Putin”, “The billionaires suck off Trump”, like whats the punchline here? “Lol its like they’re being gay with eachother”? “Ewww he’s letting himself get used like some gay”?

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        Sucking someone off is a submissive sex act, thats the point of saying that.

        This “saying trump is sucking someone off is homophobic” thing is just lack of reading comprehension.

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            Im just saying thats how it is commonly characterised and understood in this context.

            I have given my fair share of dominant blowjobs.

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          Hmm, I’ve never seen performing oral sex as being submissive, necessarily. It can be a quite active act; aggressive even.

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          Characterising gay men who like to suck dick as “submissive” is harmful. And therefore homophobic. Fellating someone is not being submissive, getting fellated is not dominating. It can be, in a dom/sub context, but it is not in itself an act with a dom/sub dynamic and characterizing it as such leads to people seeing gay people as more submissive, effeminate, and, in a patriarchal society, therefore as lesser. This whole “the person getting penetrated is the submissive part” as if they’re “letting it happen” or are doing it for the benefit of the other party needs to die out. It’s sexist and homophobic. I don’t need to dominate my partner when having sex with her, nor do I need to submit or be passive or whatever when fellating her.