Tell that to my partner when he’s tied to the bed and I’m sucking him off after a month of being locked in chastity, with the threat of being locked up for another month if he cums without permission.
Characterising gay men who like to suck dick as “submissive” is harmful. And therefore homophobic. Fellating someone is not being submissive, getting fellated is not dominating. It can be, in a dom/sub context, but it is not in itself an act with a dom/sub dynamic and characterizing it as such leads to people seeing gay people as more submissive, effeminate, and, in a patriarchal society, therefore as lesser. This whole “the person getting penetrated is the submissive part” as if they’re “letting it happen” or are doing it for the benefit of the other party needs to die out. It’s sexist and homophobic. I don’t need to dominate my partner when having sex with her, nor do I need to submit or be passive or whatever when fellating her.
Sucking someone off is a submissive sex act, thats the point of saying that.
This “saying trump is sucking someone off is homophobic” thing is just lack of reading comprehension.
Tell that to my partner when he’s tied to the bed and I’m sucking him off after a month of being locked in chastity, with the threat of being locked up for another month if he cums without permission.
Im just saying thats how it is commonly characterised and understood in this context.
I have given my fair share of dominant blowjobs.
Hmm, I’ve never seen performing oral sex as being submissive, necessarily. It can be a quite active act; aggressive even.
Characterising gay men who like to suck dick as “submissive” is harmful. And therefore homophobic. Fellating someone is not being submissive, getting fellated is not dominating. It can be, in a dom/sub context, but it is not in itself an act with a dom/sub dynamic and characterizing it as such leads to people seeing gay people as more submissive, effeminate, and, in a patriarchal society, therefore as lesser. This whole “the person getting penetrated is the submissive part” as if they’re “letting it happen” or are doing it for the benefit of the other party needs to die out. It’s sexist and homophobic. I don’t need to dominate my partner when having sex with her, nor do I need to submit or be passive or whatever when fellating her.
Your friend thats too woke