That shit happened to me with a uni exam. Oh lemme just check the time of the exam for tomorrow. Oh it’s at 9 that’s nice.
Oh god oh fuck it WAS at 9 today!!??
I felt so defeated.
That sucks. I forgot a doctor’s appointment I waited 3 months for. Had to wait for another 3 months…
No matter what tricks and aids I use to help manage it all they still end up becoming too overwhelming that I phase them out.
Even trying to go get diagnosed was hard enough. I had to have my mother in law come with me to advocate for me because I can handle the first topic we start with and they (doctors) move on to the next when I’m not done with the first so that’s all I’m thinking about. They were consistently giving me Lexapro and scooting me out the door. Kthnxbye!!
My MIL came with ONCE and interrupted the doc the moment I got flustered. I didn’t even realize I was flustered yet but she did without even pointing it out. Even just her interjecting got me focused again. It was such a a breathe of fresh air. She just retired from 40 years in healthcare and she was my savior. She knew exactly what and how to do what I’d been trying to do for 20 years with no results. Not like a diagnosis helps much but it was still validating to finally have something to show for my efforts all these years.
I get a doctor’s appointment, and I…
Put it on my calendar.
Put a reminder a few days before.
Put a reminder on the month as well.
Add it as a alarm.
Boomerang the email reminder.
Write a post it note.
Make a chat reminder that will fire a few days prior to the event.
Make a chat reminder that will fire the day of the event.
Tell my wife.
Then a day later a call denotes that it’s been rescheduled, and you have to resynchronize all your reminders. Oh, and you realize a schedule conflict moments after you confirm and hang up.
I retired in January, and I live alone now. I have no cues about the days and the passage of time. I’ve found I have to put things on my calendar with reminders that I never had to before. Just mundane things like taking out the trash barrels. It seems really strange to me, but more than half the time, when I get the notification, I’m completely surprised. “Oh, huh, it’s Thursday.”
That sounds really peaceful. For me at least, not knowing which day it is always stands for good times.
I get where you’re coming from - in years past that was often the same for me. It turns out that life can be really stressful, but still not have any marks for the passing of time. It just means that the stress doesn’t come from things like work, school, or other deadlines.
I mean maybe just start doing some thing on specific days. Like going on a long walk every friday or tsking care of your plants on tuesdays. Just something that you know happens every week on the same day.
I’m starting to collect a few of those. I now have things in the evening on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. One of the strange things is that the hours and days pass by very slowly, though the weeks and months go pretty quickly. When I worked, I was really busy all the time (managed a software engineering organization), and there were many things that were regularly scheduled each day. I don’t want to get back to anytime like that, but it also feels like an eternity between Monday and Wednesday.
When you first learn about the appointment or event. Immediately put it in your calendar and set multiple reminders. Top priority. If you can’t do it then, add it anytime something reminds you of the event (if that ever happens).
It’s pretty much the only way I can remember appointments and events that aren’t too important. Of course, if it is important, that is all I’ll think about until the event, completely forgetting all other events until my reminder pops up.
The struggle is real
I literally woke up yesterday from my alarm, snoozed it, and didn’t wake back up until 10:07. my appointment was at 10 :/
so I went back to sleep 😂
Got a smartwatch, helps a lot to have a physical wake up call /reminder. Still misses shit ofc but less at least :)
I mean that is a really shitty feeling though when that does happen
Been there. Lots of times
I have too much anxiety and I stress about it until it happens. I live in the US so obviously I only go when there is something wrong so that might have something to do with it too.
