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Cake day: July 10th, 2023

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  • As someone who actually lives here.

    Good things include: nice food, diverse places to travel to, socialist programmes to support poor people so they don’t die of hunger, simple lifestyle, fast internet connection, okayish job market.

    Bad things: a huge population means lots of criminals as well, politicians here loot the poor, the cities are fucked with lots of people, little space to hangout, public transport sucks, culturally regressive society in regards to individual, women and trans rights, people are becoming more violent, Hindu vs Muslim bullshit rather than focus on making things better.

    I rate 2.7/5.



  • I agree but this is very location dependent. I live in India and an hour of therapy session costs around 15$(average bill if two people eat at a normal restaurant to put things into perspective).

    If you can’t afford that, don’t worry as many not for profit organisations exist which will help you with free therapy. But this comes at the cost of therapists who themselves are paid like shit. But none of this applies to my friends because their job is ready to pay(your boss can’t find out you go to therapy btw) in case they want therapy but they still are hesitant. It’s more to do with how people will perceive you if they hear you’re going to therapy.


  • Most of my friends who have tried therapy just leave after a session or two and claim their problems have gone away, dodge further sessions and never actually gave it a real try. Then a week later they will go through the same issues again. It sucks to see them this way… I’ve tried to help them to go to therapy consistently but very few actually do.

    You can’t solve 20 years worth of emotional issues in a few sessions… it takes years of therapy to actually get better. Not to mention societal stigma against going to therapy makes it even harder.



  • pizzahoe@lemm.eetoMemes@lemmy.mlThe Bezos way.
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    1 year ago

    They bought the land? They paid the miners?? Mining has a history of forcing native people out of their lands through threats or worse killing people, making slaves out of poor people and forcing them into 12+ hours shifts in horrible and unsafe conditions.


  • Selling drugs can and should in some cases be illegal though

    This still doesn’t help. If you make weed illegal to sell but legal to consume, soon you’ll have poor people selling weed and rich folks buying. Guess who ends up in jail though?

    I think government should sell all kinds of drug, even hard drugs to addicts. In that process identify these hard drug addicts and help them transition to a life without these drugs through rehabilitation. This will also help pull away the drug money from gangs.


  • Because they feel valueless, helpless and can’t see a purpose to going on.

    I strongly believe this has nothing to do with feminism and is just a problem of the capitalist society we live in that only treats labour and hardwork like shit unless it can generate 1000x profits year on year. Building and serving a community isn’t rewarded. Everything is about greed and more profits. Feminism can’t solve capitalism. It can’t stop people from feeling it’s fucked up consequences like loneliness, feeling unvalued and committing suicide.





  • I’m sorry to hear that. If I’m assuming correctly and you are a woman, then i just want to say that woman are judged much more harshly than men based on looks since the fucked up expectations are they should look “cute” and girly and a bunch of other things as well. But still, it’s very sad to hear that other woman are also avoiding you.

    If it’s truly a behaviour problem from your side, do you have anyone in your life who you trust who can share an honest feedback with you regarding what might be going wrong in these interactions you have with others? That might help you work with what’s going wrong.

    But if it’s not a personality problem and just a looks problem, then maybe it’s still worth a shot trying to find like minded folks. I’ve been alone at times in life and sympathize with your situation. For me what worked was I had a supportive family who I could still call even when i was not feeling great and a bunch of new friends who actually cared about me because I had previously helped them a lot with things without any expectations from them. What i mean to say is that I felt that I’ll be alone always at many times in my life but with time and much effort and luck, that’s not the case and I have a good support system in place. I hope you can get find a way around this and wish you best of luck as well friend!






  • I have to agree with you on the over engineering and layers of abstraction which stop making sense over time. At the same time I’ve seen people abusing the application context and try to reinvent the wheel in a worse way rather than using easy to read annotations. People care less about doing it the right way. Many who care about doing it the right way but don’t understand things well, go so far off the deep end that we end up with unnecessary abstractions.