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  • mysticpickle@lemmy.catoNo Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Socially inept, introverted employees. How do you survive the workplace? Because I’m in dire need of some serious advice.
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    1 month ago

    I’ve got a pretty strong feeling you’re on the spectrum just based on how you present your story.

    The main vibe I’m getting is you aren’t reading the culture of the team correctly and almost no matter what you do, when it comes to any healthcare field you’re going to have to work with a team. If the team doesn’t want to work with you or you’re souring the working culture there, you’re hurting the team’s morale as a whole and that matters more than how awesome your personal performance might be.

    It seems you’re pretty intractable on how you want to work and interact with your coworkers. I mean, you’re new to workplace and you’re already looking down on the people who have been working there likely much longer than you have. You would have been better served by starting out with a more humble mindset by finding ways to help and learn from your coworkers to endear them to you rather than assuming they’re just lazy and not worth your time to get along with.

    Now, you aren’t obligated to chat with people endlessly but you do have to be polite and nice. If you tire of a conversation, find a good excuse to end a conversation early (bathroom, forgot to do something important, etc). If your coworkers get the impression you are unpleasant, they are much less likely to help you or stand up for you if another coworker makes a complaint about working with you.

    Also, how often do you say please and thank you? If it’s less than after almost every interaction with your coworkers, you need to adjust yourself. People that work in the ER get a lot of shit flung at them from patients and the last thing they want is to catch incivility from their coworkers.

    Your effectiveness at your job in a team environment isn’t just your skills and competency. A good half of it is how well you interact with your coworkers and how willing they are to work with you.

    I’ve got a strong hunch that what happened in your situation is several of your more senior coworkers probably got to talking with each other and realized they all really hate working with you. In fact, they’d rather quit than have to put up with you and they conveyed that thought to management. When management hears they might lose several veterans in a functioning department over a newbie that isn’t quite fitting in, the decision to transfer you out isn’t a particularly hard one to make.

    Honestly, you kind of sound like a nightmare to work with right now. If you don’t adjust your way of thinking, you’re likely going to run into the same exact problems no matter what area of the hospital you end up in next.

    Trying to get back into the ER now is pretty much a lost cause for you. You’ve likely been branded as toxic to work with by almost everyone there. Just move on to a new environment and do better next time.