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  • Well, my brain seems to be affected by it according to that test (difference score of 11) if I interpret the scale correctly

    But well, I also got autism and quite a few other mental conditions and learned all my life to cope quite well with all my disabilities; that’s why I specifically outsource direction question to a visualization that make the answer more tangible for me than listening to my intuition.

    But well, what works for some doesn’t necessarily work for all. And probably my other conditions have some influence on it as well. We’re all different, after all; even if sharing a few traits.



  • I get that. My intuition often mixes both up, too.

    That’s why I trained myself to say “driver-side” and “passenger-side” in my head when left or right come up. To a point where I don’t even have to think about thinking about it. I just visualize which side of car is meant instead of the rather abstract concept of left and right

    Might not help you; but it helps me







  • Madlaine@feddit.detoADHD@lemmy.worldADHD: Bad for us, but a boon for our ancestors?
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    I’d still be expected to listen when others speak

    I love chillin’ with other ADHD’ers: most understand if you zone out and tell them that.

    My colleagues also accept a “sry, that may sound a bit stupid; but my brain just cannot focus on this topic right now. I’ll come back to that later or tomorrow” (and as long as it’s occasional even a “sry, but my brain cannot do that at all. Can someone else please do this?”)

    cook without burning myself or the food

    I got a kitchen machine that does it for me. I can even forget my food without any chance of burning it. Worst case it’s cold.

    speak without repeating myself, speak in a way that makes sense to others

    Again, this is a problem I only have with neurotypicals; no problem along fellow neurodivergentd

    keep appointments

    Again just something that normal society expects. I have one single appointment per day I can’t miss (start-of-day-meeting). Everything else is movable most of the time. I don’t meet people at certain times, I meet them “that afternoon” and we will write each other when we’re ready

    read and comprehend instructions

    I know many neurotypicals that cannot do that.

    transport myself from place to place without injury or forgetting necessary items…

    Nothing to say against these points, actually…


    What I want to say is that most of the problems you listed are based on the expectations of neueotypicaldom. All of my friends and some of my colleagues are neurodivergent (most ADHD, some ASD, some both, I’m both) and honestly: As long as I don’t have to interact with the neurotypical world I don’t run in that much problems. It’s still not perfect, but way more manageable.











  • Guess the difference is what you grew up with and therefore intuitively prefer:

    • allegedly american thinking: This baby sucks X gallons. Let’s see how far I can get with it

    • allegedly non-american thanking: I need to drive roughly X 1/2 hundred kilometers, and that will burn that much fuel.