NVE_Girl She/Her

“I’m trying to help.”

Cool, well after one of the hardest weeks of my life because of my identity, I really feel helped coming into a thread about TDoV and seeing 50% of the comments being dominated by a cis man talking down to trans people.

And I was even polite, offered a neutral explanation, and you still attacked me.

Seems like you have a real big chip on your shoulder about the trans community.

First day on beehaw as a trans woman. Sure do feel welcome here, thank you Powderhorn.

I didn’t say that.

That’s a false equivalent, Black History Month is a full month, TDoV is one day.

No one is suggesting a total ban on speech. We’re pointing out the difference between participating in a conversation and directing it. The goal of a day like TDoV is for trans people to be the subject of the conversation, rather than the audience for someone else’s memories.

I think there’s a misunderstanding about the intent here. Asking for space on TDoV isn’t meant as an attack, but as a boundary. Support shouldn’t be conditional on a community being perfectly polite while they’re asking to be heard. Telling a marginalized group they aren’t doing themselves any favors by setting boundaries on their own visibility day feels more like a lecture than allyship.