That’s a great way to put it, love the analogy too.

Thank you very much :D

I posted somewhere about how that didn’t happen to me even once last Christmas :/

I apologize and I wouldn’t want that either lol. That thought is scary and that meeting would end up with them talking about how to hide my body.

You’re right in that the analogy is way off. Here’s the only way it would make it right, is if your new date also wanted to vent about your ex. That’s probably not the case. But being a Reddit refugee is something in common for many people on Lemmy (especially right now) and so it makes perfect sense for people to talk about it.

Also, I don’t give much thought to the posts I scroll past…

Bad analogy, it would be like meeting up with all your ex-girlfriend’s other former partners and all bitching about that shared ex because you have that thing in common.

We’re all deciding what to do with you right now. Tyrael has the deciding vote.

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A single character emoji could easily be a typo as well.

Everything is an opportunity cost. That is, if you’re engaging in YouTube you are missing out on something else. It’s fine if that’s the choice you want to make, but understand that you’re “missing out” on hanging out with friends or reading or video games or calling a family member.

Hey, no prob. It’s been a genuine struggle and I’ve lost friends over it that I wish I’d kept.

“Beat a path to thy neighbor’s door” still applies to us. I’ve explained it to people that I go in and out of feeling social, I expand and contract basically in cycles. When I’m not responsive to “you” I’m not being responsive to anyone else either, my world has shrunk and I go introverted again for a time. It has nothing to do with how I feel about you, I just get like that and I always have.

This has worked really well for me, with the people who are willing to get it. Often they tell me it’s the same for them.

I can’t stress this part enough: People are making up reasons for why you aren’t responsive in the absence of you telling them why. The imagined situation, due to all of our little self esteem and confidence issues, is that it’s about how you feel about them in particular. I’d tried to explain this to my mom so many times over the years and what eventually did it was me explaining that I go “invisible” on Steam and Battle.net for instance when I’m like that. I even hide from the people I just play video games with. She recalled her sister being a bit of a recluse and got it finally. Your examples might be different, but you do owe your friends that explanation of what it’s like to be you, so that they don’t think this is what it’s like to be them.

This is like asking someone to check in on your ex, sure it sounds like a good idea, but…

I mean lemmyshitposts on Lemmy.world is where I’m seeing the most but I’m new here and don’t really know how to write that out.

I mean lemmyshitposts on Lemmy.world is where I’m seeing the most but I’m new here and don’t really know how to write that out.

I’ve deleted 2 Reddit accounts now, most recent on July 1st in protest. Not going back this time, but for the people who feel like they lost something, I have some advice. Go to your own comments and sort by top. Read through the stuff you’ve said over the years that got the most positive feedback. Take it all in, and then let it go.

Wholesome AF but I agree. It’s my first comment using wefwef anyway, maybe 2nd or 3rd on lemmy? I was going to reply “this is the way” to your other quote lol. But you’re spot on, and honestly, anyone who disagrees probably underestimated the number of young folks on Reddit, Digg, etc. in the first place. I’ve been on the interwebz since IRC days and showing new folks how to act is the way you build communities. It doesn’t matter how old they are and nobody would ever know if they were lying about their age anyway. Cultivate good hoomans. Soooo tl;dr cheers!

As should we all.