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  • I can’t speak for your situation, but I do know of too many examples of marriages “just because” that made both partners completely miserable for decades. And their disgust at each other definitely was not good for the kid to grow up around.

    If she’s someone you could see spending your life with, just not right now, then it’s worth considering. But either way, I would advise against agreeing to a shotgun wedding and leave that decision between you and her.


  • Sounds like her parents are trying to force you into a shotgun wedding.

    Ultimately, it’s up to you if you want to go into a marriage that is very much going to be unhappy (I know currently and grew up around lots of terible pregnancy / stay together for the kids marriages) Personally, I’d just setup child support arrangements and discuss with her what role, if any, I would have in the child’s life and politely, but firmly, tell her parents to fuck off (you’re both adults).

    Edit: And if she doesn’t want to have a baby, I would also support and assist with that.