No problem.

I’ll add one other thing: Others have mentioned couples therapy. This is a great idea. Even if the relationship is already over, worst case scenario is they both gain some insight into their own toxic behavioural patterns to make their next relationship better.

Russell Brand? More.like rapist.

No one teaches you how to have a relationship. So people just kind of default into patterns that are often toxic.

It’s why taking a step back and being deliberate about how to communicate is so important. There needs to be a shared understanding and deliberateness about how to intentionally communicate.

And it needs to be something that applies equally to everyone involved. No copouts, no special circumstances that only go one way, there need to be firm, hard rules with specific consequences that apply evenly to all involved that are arrived at communally, and not unilaterally.

It takes two to tango.

The defensive lashing out type stuff happens because he hasn’t established firm boundaries around it. And she’s probably lashing out about stuff because… Well. Doesn’t matter, really.

There need to be firm boundaries about how to have a discussion that apply evenly to both of them. Both of them need to buy into these rules. When the lines are crossed the discussion ends.

This isn’t about shutting down a discussion but having the awareness to recognize constructive versus destructive discussions.

Setting reasonable, adult boundaries and rules, sticking to them, and establishing that certain behaviours are problematic are the only way this gets better.

If she’s unable to recognize her own defensiven ss as a problem and work on it all of this falls apart but having the framework in place will allow transparency into the why of it.

Hi dad, it’s me, your son, but from the future. I’m 75 now and writing to you via a time machine I found behind a McDonald’s Bell.

It is crucially important you need these words: do not order the fish sticks. Under no circumstances, NONE, order the fish sticks.

My religion is “keep your religion dar the fuck away from me”.

I believe in freedom from religion even more strongly than of religion

Great point - PBS Spacetime is actually great.

I don’t watch YouTube very much at all so you may be right about kurzgezagt.

I think that some people are just assholes. And other people are too sensitive.

Sometimes its a bit of both. Sometimes its one or the other.

I enjoy mercilessly shit talking people who mercilessly shit talk me back. But I have the social awareness to recognize when this isn’t appropriate, and to treat people the way they want to be treated, not how I want to be treated.

The issue that where you could once go and see people that did it just because they wanted to its now mixed in with / overpowered by by people that want to make money.

No one is arguing anyone is entitled to anyone else’s naked body. But I don’t think there is anything wrong with having a preference for wanting to see people who are naked because they want to be, and not because they want to earn money.

Not to mention all the evil / sexual exploitation that comes up once money is in the equation.

YouTube is and has always been shit.

Except for let’s game it out and kurzgesagt. In all the years of YouTube they’re literally the only fucking things I’ve ever found worth watching at all.

Hood news. The afterlife is the same thing as the before life. Remember that? The 4 biillion odd years or so before you existed? Exactly.

You actually think there are going to be fucking elections in four years? Jfc you people deserve this shit.

The issue isn’t that the parties are the same. It is that neither should be in power. And you’re all too fucking brainwashed to realize the only way out of this mess without violent revolution is a third party gaining power. And even with, probably.

I haven’t laughed so hard in a month. Thank you for that.

Nazis don’t deserve to breathe.

Dude looks pretty fucking weak to me.

They hate porn.

Weird, because I’m 99℅ video content is what ruined the fucking internet

I love Satan. So much. He sure is cooler than that fucking cunt Jesus.

I don’t like driving…

I don’t need to drive

Owning a car is stupidly expensive. And its an expense I don’t need to pay.

Cars make people lazy and entitled and create divisions between them. When you’re driving you’re not around other people like you would be on public transit. They’re bothered.