Look, I’m not expert and have no training, but I’ve noticed that a rather large amount of people online - mostly women - seem to self-diagnose things that will give them what they think is victimhood, but don’t seem to diagnose with things viewed generally negatively:
Meaning, you don’t see people claiming (admitting) they are afflicted with dark triad traits, for instance. Very interesting…no, it’s the things that are currently considered more fashionable to have: anxiety, OCD, being on the spectrum, etc…
I’d say the people that most need to get therapy are not getting properly dealt with, based on many of my IRL interactions. Some of them are IN therapy or what have you, but it seems they are only there to have their dark triad traits ignored/validated and told they are “victims” of something else. This seems to be causing a wake of damage around them, by the way, because if anything they seem to becoming less well-adapted adults, and more like coddled children with a victim complex to boot.
I think the people with dark triad traits are just flying under the radar as far as having it managed. I bet most people around them if they are honest with themselves, fully realize the issue(s) though.
Yeah, a friend I’ve known 40 years recently got an autism diagnosis. I was shocked, nothing about her seems to be autism, I see Borderline Personality Disorder…but nobody wants that label.
Id like to point out that women tend to have very different presentations than men and what people typically think of as autism. Largely because they are socialized differently.
Yes, understood. I know a few. But unless there are secret traits then I don’t see how it is autism. There are absolutely no signs or quirks, just a normal person with a few abandonment issues from an odd parent situation.
Yes, it’s this exactly. Again, I’m not in the field, but I definitely have noticed it seems to be a real thing, both online and off.
Now, it could be that these people are getting told they also have narcissism, Machiavellianism, and/or psychopathy in addition to something else like autism. That’s if they get diagnosed by actual (ethical) professionals in the first place.
Because even with those traits, you are probably going to be savvy enough not to broadcast the dark triad, and with those traits, you are not likely to want to work on addressing them. You certainly are not going to pre-warn potential future victims.
The other thing I’ve tended to notice is that it seems lots of armchair diagnostics being made about almost any man who has almost any hobby that is not sportsball or hunting or fishing - “he’s probably on the spectrum”. I mean…wut.
And don’t get me started on the (mostly men it seems) that get accused of being an asshole, self-diagnosing and saying that they may have Asperger’s. Uh, no, the problem is most likely you have to work on your empathy.
All this armchair diagnosing is rather hilarious if it weren’t for all the harm it’s probably causing.
Look, I’m not expert and have no training, but I’ve noticed that a rather large amount of people online - mostly women - seem to self-diagnose things that will give them what they think is victimhood, but don’t seem to diagnose with things viewed generally negatively:
Meaning, you don’t see people claiming (admitting) they are afflicted with dark triad traits, for instance. Very interesting…no, it’s the things that are currently considered more fashionable to have: anxiety, OCD, being on the spectrum, etc…
I’d say the people that most need to get therapy are not getting properly dealt with, based on many of my IRL interactions. Some of them are IN therapy or what have you, but it seems they are only there to have their dark triad traits ignored/validated and told they are “victims” of something else. This seems to be causing a wake of damage around them, by the way, because if anything they seem to becoming less well-adapted adults, and more like coddled children with a victim complex to boot.
I think the people with dark triad traits are just flying under the radar as far as having it managed. I bet most people around them if they are honest with themselves, fully realize the issue(s) though.
Yeah, a friend I’ve known 40 years recently got an autism diagnosis. I was shocked, nothing about her seems to be autism, I see Borderline Personality Disorder…but nobody wants that label.
Id like to point out that women tend to have very different presentations than men and what people typically think of as autism. Largely because they are socialized differently.
Yes, understood. I know a few. But unless there are secret traits then I don’t see how it is autism. There are absolutely no signs or quirks, just a normal person with a few abandonment issues from an odd parent situation.
Yes, it’s this exactly. Again, I’m not in the field, but I definitely have noticed it seems to be a real thing, both online and off.
Now, it could be that these people are getting told they also have narcissism, Machiavellianism, and/or psychopathy in addition to something else like autism. That’s if they get diagnosed by actual (ethical) professionals in the first place.
Because even with those traits, you are probably going to be savvy enough not to broadcast the dark triad, and with those traits, you are not likely to want to work on addressing them. You certainly are not going to pre-warn potential future victims.
The other thing I’ve tended to notice is that it seems lots of armchair diagnostics being made about almost any man who has almost any hobby that is not sportsball or hunting or fishing - “he’s probably on the spectrum”. I mean…wut.
And don’t get me started on the (mostly men it seems) that get accused of being an asshole, self-diagnosing and saying that they may have Asperger’s. Uh, no, the problem is most likely you have to work on your empathy.
All this armchair diagnosing is rather hilarious if it weren’t for all the harm it’s probably causing.