• interolivary@beehaw.orgOP
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    Skipped straight to the “you’re a rapist for making this joke”, huh?

    Maybe you can just like block me and move on with your life? It’s not like I’m going to remove this meme just because you think it’s making fun of trauma, and you’re not going to get me to repent my evil ways either. Or do you want to lecture me some more, maybe call me a rapist again?

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      This is really insulting to me as a cavemen sex educator. Do you know how hard it is to explain complex concepts in cavemen speech?!

      /s

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      I didn’t read that as “you are a rapist”, I read that as “this is the same kind of non-empathetic and hostileness that rapists display” and implied “do better”
      So I get why you feel attacked but it’s a legit criticism

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        Not sure that’s much better. Did I handle that tactfully? No. Is that grounds for comparing me to a rapist? Also no.

        I just really don’t have much patience with people who assume that it’s everybody’s responsibility to shield them from things they somehow find either offensive, traumatizing, or making fun of their trauma. While I’m not unsympathetic to trauma or completely unwilling to accommodate it at all, if we clean the meme community of everything that someone finds somehow either offensive or triggering, there won’t be much left here – considering how much you have to reach to say this meme is somehow grievously making fun of trauma or even related to trauma, the bar for removing “offensive” content isn’t going to be high.

        So, tl;dr, just about anything can be offensive or triggering to someone, so where on earth do we draw the line? Again, I’m not unsympathetic, but is it not a bit ridiculous to come barging in with the apparent assumption that something as inoffensive as this meme be either removed or that they get some sort of apology for it or whatever their end goal was in their mind?

        Edit: just to drive the point home because I’m irritated, but despite what could be assumed based on my twattery in some comments, I’m a fairly sensitive person. There’s a bunch of subjects that I’m very sensitive about, but I’m not going to go around telling people that their post about $SUBJECT_MATTER is offensive to me; my sensitivities aren’t anybody else’s problem, they’re my problem (well, mine and my therapist’s). And this doesn’t mean I’d eg. shut up about seeing blatant racism or whatever, but things I figure aren’t going to be more widely offensive or “touchy”.

        • Diva (she/her)@lemmy.ml
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          While I’m not unsympathetic to trauma or completely unwilling to accommodate it at all, if we clean the meme community of everything that someone finds somehow either offensive or triggering, there won’t be much left here

          So, tl;dr, just about anything can be offensive or triggering to someone, so where on earth do we draw the line?

          I didn’t find the post to be particularly funny, nor triggering, but the responses to someone complaining by doubling down on the exact thing they just complained about is very telling about the culture you’re cultivating on beehaw.

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              If you had read carefully the beehaw.org TOS, you’d know there’s a fine-print clause that nominates you, personally, as the ambassador of all of its communities; everyone else is contractually obligated to upvote comments on your posts where you make fun of… uh, people who have had sex education or poor English speechcraft idk.

                  • interolivary@beehaw.orgOP
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                    Guess I hit a nerve?

                    Wanna go check out my profile page, leave a sulky reply on a few more comments? Insulting the quality of my memes was a terrific idea, but maybe you could team up with the original offendee who’s now convinced that this post is an indication of rape culture being out of control, and see what sort of absolutely devastating insults you can come up with? Could call me a fascist for example, that’d be pretty bad?