[Reposting since my other account seems shadowbanned(?). I’m sorry if you are seeing this again]
I am one of those who are in their twenties and never had a partner (unless you count that one odd semi edating stuff I got going at one time). And thus never felt touch of a partner or their love lol.
Well in my teens, I never had these feelings this high and I always felt focusing on my studies was the best so I had myself distracted all the time. Love was a foreign concept.
Even now it does feel like one, but after a long online situationship( ? idk what you call it) I feel it unlocked something in me. I have been feeling stuff I haven’t felt before and this had me trying to watch some romcoms which I never did in my teenage. But these don’t really sit with me and idk how to deal with the random waves of endearing for a loving partner (my teenage self of me is still cringing at this while I type >W<) .
So what are some ways to quench off this particular thrist (without, obviously, getting a gf)?
Note: I will look for a gf in the long run for sure, I’m only looking at alternative ways of dealing with these feelings.
I don’t know what your particular social situation is but I’d say it’s time to go out and maybe meet some new people? You’re pretty young and it sounds like you spend a lot of time online it might be good to get out in the world where you can have experiences with people your own age if you can. You’re right it can for sure be weird talking to your parents about this stuff
It sounds like you really liked your friend online but if they’re not willing to talk any longer it’s definitely time to move on and try to make those connections somewhere else
You’re right I don’t go out often and much rather spend my days at home online. I work now and so I’m daily put in social situations and wow some people are just outright terrible. There some sweet people out there but these terrible people just want to ruin everyone’s experience. I struggle at keeping my boundaries and hence made my irl social experiences much worse.
But I’ll keep trying. Thanks.
Like the other person said, find an IRL hobby or volunteer work that’s both social and you’d enjoy at least a bit … better if it’s a hobby that attracts the sort of people you’re likely to get on with (for example, amongst other things I do target shooting, and it’s mostly right-leaning men so I don’t use it as a social outlet).
Even if you only say hi and bye to people, over time it builds into acquaintances, and from that maybe friendship.
IRL friendship is as important to us human animals as falling in love, and is much easier. The more IRL connection you make, the more likely you are to find someone special.
But this does require effort!
The best advice I can give you there is to try and find some people who share a common interest and strike up a conversation? That was how I made most of my friends I knew from work and we used to go out for drinks after work or sometimes someone would have a party where I would always meet new people
I wish I could give you some better advice than that but when I was in my 20s social media was still a new thing and everyone still met up and shared stuff IRL 🤷♂️