[Reposting since my other account seems shadowbanned(?). I’m sorry if you are seeing this again]
I am one of those who are in their twenties and never had a partner (unless you count that one odd semi edating stuff I got going at one time). And thus never felt touch of a partner or their love lol.
Well in my teens, I never had these feelings this high and I always felt focusing on my studies was the best so I had myself distracted all the time. Love was a foreign concept.
Even now it does feel like one, but after a long online situationship( ? idk what you call it) I feel it unlocked something in me. I have been feeling stuff I haven’t felt before and this had me trying to watch some romcoms which I never did in my teenage. But these don’t really sit with me and idk how to deal with the random waves of endearing for a loving partner (my teenage self of me is still cringing at this while I type >W<) .
So what are some ways to quench off this particular thrist (without, obviously, getting a gf)?
Note: I will look for a gf in the long run for sure, I’m only looking at alternative ways of dealing with these feelings.
Like the other person said, find an IRL hobby or volunteer work that’s both social and you’d enjoy at least a bit … better if it’s a hobby that attracts the sort of people you’re likely to get on with (for example, amongst other things I do target shooting, and it’s mostly right-leaning men so I don’t use it as a social outlet).
Even if you only say hi and bye to people, over time it builds into acquaintances, and from that maybe friendship.
IRL friendship is as important to us human animals as falling in love, and is much easier. The more IRL connection you make, the more likely you are to find someone special.
But this does require effort!