I’m headed to the weekly burner event this evening. The sheer proportion of trans folks defies statistical probability. There’s one regular couple where both transitioned and … I guess they look like a heteronormative couple from across the produce section?
I will be the first to admit that despite being fully supportive of others’ life decisions, I still regularly slip and use the wrong pronouns. It’s very difficult to unlearn decades of gender expectations, despite having learned in 1999 on W Marginal Way SW that the only thing you should assume is everyone is bi.
Trans wasn’t quite yet a thing in the rave scene, and while I get that transitioning has gotten younger and younger with dysphoria being more recognized, at that time, no one was doing so at 14. Thanks to the draconian Teen Dance Ordinance and then the All-Ages Dance Ordinance that Seattle passed, there were literally two venues in town that could host events for anyone under 21.
Meaning that these venues were basically blocking curious teens from learning from more experienced community members, which was already being called “grooming” instead of mentoring. It was a terrible time to experience the realization that something was wrong without any resources.
This is actually an ongoing issue in many spaces. “If you don’t fully validate me by only talking about what I said, you are the enemy.”
That’s a rather juvenile approach. Discussion is how change happens, and shutting it off makes shooting yourself in the foot seem a wise option by comparison.
I’m deeply enmeshed in the queer community, and you’re saying I’m not supportive enough? You are working against your own self-interest. Don’t attack your colleagues; attack the system.
Dude, I wasn’t saying you aren’t supportive enough. Just, that you are taking up too much space! This day is (was) literally meant to be a celebration of trans people and their struggles and you try to make it about yourself. So yes, it would be exactly the right occasion to for one day validate us. And if you don’t want to, then just shut up.
I’m headed to the weekly burner event this evening. The sheer proportion of trans folks defies statistical probability. There’s one regular couple where both transitioned and … I guess they look like a heteronormative couple from across the produce section?
I will be the first to admit that despite being fully supportive of others’ life decisions, I still regularly slip and use the wrong pronouns. It’s very difficult to unlearn decades of gender expectations, despite having learned in 1999 on W Marginal Way SW that the only thing you should assume is everyone is bi.
Trans wasn’t quite yet a thing in the rave scene, and while I get that transitioning has gotten younger and younger with dysphoria being more recognized, at that time, no one was doing so at 14. Thanks to the draconian Teen Dance Ordinance and then the All-Ages Dance Ordinance that Seattle passed, there were literally two venues in town that could host events for anyone under 21.
Meaning that these venues were basically blocking curious teens from learning from more experienced community members, which was already being called “grooming” instead of mentoring. It was a terrible time to experience the realization that something was wrong without any resources.
This is about trans visibility and you make it all about yourself and your anecdotes :(
On a discussion board? Oh, the humanity!
This is actually an ongoing issue in many spaces. “If you don’t fully validate me by only talking about what I said, you are the enemy.”
That’s a rather juvenile approach. Discussion is how change happens, and shutting it off makes shooting yourself in the foot seem a wise option by comparison.
I’m deeply enmeshed in the queer community, and you’re saying I’m not supportive enough? You are working against your own self-interest. Don’t attack your colleagues; attack the system.
Dude, I wasn’t saying you aren’t supportive enough. Just, that you are taking up too much space! This day is (was) literally meant to be a celebration of trans people and their struggles and you try to make it about yourself. So yes, it would be exactly the right occasion to for one day validate us. And if you don’t want to, then just shut up.