If they tell you they love you, they love you. But there are many, many different kinds and aspects of love, many ideas what love is. If they tell you “we love you” but you cannot feel or sense this love, you are both using the same word, but not the same idea of love. Or maybe you have even the same idea what love means, but have different ways and needs how to express and experience this love.
The key would be not to doubt their love but to discuss and reflect with them what they mean when they say “We love you”, how they try to show you their love, how they want you to show your love, how you want them to show their love.
Sadly, for most people such conversations are very hard, if not next to impossible. Counseling, mediation or therapy can be helpful, if you’ve got access to any.
This is a really good answer. Even terrible parents generally ‘love’ their children. Some believe that means giving everything they want and never saying “no”, others believe that by bullying their kids they’re “making them strong”. And some genuinely love their kids, but less than they love their career or football.
Fortunately most parents really do want to do right by the kids, and have a more sane idea of what love means. But they might not always express that love in the way the child needs or understands, for a variety of reasons.
If they tell you they love you, they love you. But there are many, many different kinds and aspects of love, many ideas what love is. If they tell you “we love you” but you cannot feel or sense this love, you are both using the same word, but not the same idea of love. Or maybe you have even the same idea what love means, but have different ways and needs how to express and experience this love.
The key would be not to doubt their love but to discuss and reflect with them what they mean when they say “We love you”, how they try to show you their love, how they want you to show your love, how you want them to show their love.
Sadly, for most people such conversations are very hard, if not next to impossible. Counseling, mediation or therapy can be helpful, if you’ve got access to any.
This is a really good answer. Even terrible parents generally ‘love’ their children. Some believe that means giving everything they want and never saying “no”, others believe that by bullying their kids they’re “making them strong”. And some genuinely love their kids, but less than they love their career or football.
Fortunately most parents really do want to do right by the kids, and have a more sane idea of what love means. But they might not always express that love in the way the child needs or understands, for a variety of reasons.