• LordAmplifier@pawb.socialEnglish
      27·
      5 days ago

      Depends on who made the secret rules. If they’re my own secret rules that only I need/want to follow, they’re obviously great and a lot of fun, but if they’re secret rules by others and they expect you to know them, then those are the kind of secret rules that suck.

      • ℕ𝕖𝕞𝕠@slrpnk.netEnglish
        10·
        5 days ago

        I see what you’re saying but I have to disagree. Figuring out the secret rules behind everything is a interesting puzzle. In fact, once I’ve mastered the secret rules of a workplace or social group I often rapidly lose interest because it’s no longer a challenge. That’s why I love my public-facing job, new people to figure out every day.

        • LordAmplifier@pawb.socialEnglish
          6·
          5 days ago

          That’s a good point, and I agree that it can be fun to figure them out sometimes. For me, it’s the rather strict enforcement of these often arbitrary rules by society in so many importants parts of life that makes me miserable.

        • 🔍🦘🛎@lemmy.worldEnglish
          2·
          4 days ago

          Secret rules are interesting and motivational when you’re discovering them, and crippling once they become a routine. This post is saying to skip these unnecessary practices and do it the way that suits you.

    • Malle_Yeno@pawb.socialEnglish
      20·
      5 days ago

      Until: “I can’t start the dishwasher until there are more dishes in there.” (You can just start the dishwasher without a full load and you’ll have clean dishes for later.)

      Secret rules: “You should only run a dishwasher when it’s full for maximum efficiency.” (It’s your dishwasher and you can use it as inefficiently as you wish, you dont have to think about efficiency all the time. If you want clean dishes later, start the washer now no matter how much it’ll clean.)

      I read “Organizing for adhd individuals” (paraphrasing title, it’s been a sec. ill find the real title later if you’re interested) and the author makes a good point about how little unspoken assumptions get amplified by ADHD and add small costs that add up to killing our energy. The author made a point that if you design systems that don’t require you to think about these small things, organizing gets easier.

      Her example was cleaning and putting away socks: her clients dread having to match socks to put them into a drawer, so they hold off on doing that. Her solution was to make it so that assumption isnt even in play: just buy socks that all look the same. Then you can just dump them into the sock drawer unmatched. (Personally, i just decided that I dont care that I wear non-matching socks. And my life is better for it!)