Not that it matters now, but I’m curious. I don’t know if I was popular. I had a lot of friends in middle school and I would say I did in high school too, but a lot less people knew me as the middle school I went to was smaller.

  • That Weird Vegan@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    1·
    3 hours ago

    lolno. I was teased relentlessly. My parents did nothing to stop it either. They could have home schooled me or changed schools or whatever. But nope. Did nothing

  • Phoenixz@lemmy.ca
    1·
    9 hours ago

    I was lowest on the ladder

    Now my most of my classmates are and I’m pretty much on top

  • hbar@lemmy.ml
    4·
    13 hours ago

    I was liked amongst the nerds and band people. Outside of that nobody knew me. I’m fine with that.

  • mic_check_one_two@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
    4·
    1 day ago

    I was well-liked, but not what I’d consider “popular” per se. I ended up being friends with a bunch of people from the various cliques and extracurriculars.

    I worked in the school theater (peep my username lol) and ended up running shows for a bunch of different groups. Many of the football players were extras in the musicals, the cheerleaders were in the dance shows, the band kids were in concerts, etc… And all of the super outgoing popular kids were actors. So I didn’t belong to any of those circles, but I had plenty of friends in each. I could reliably show up at any of the various school functions and find some friends to hang out with.

  • Anonmousecity@lemmy.ml
    3·
    23 hours ago

    I was liked by most of the students, but I wasn’t Miss popular. I basically stuck with my own friends group. My school was small, so it really didn’t matter.

  • FireWire400@lemmy.worldEnglish
    16·
    2 days ago

    When I first entered high school I wanted to be popular; I associated with all the “cool” kids and even started a half-fake relationship with one of the popular girls. For some reason, one day they all just turned on me and continued bullying me heavily throughout high school…

    I’m actually glad it happened, though. All of those “cool” kids were, how do I put this… fucking morons. A bunch of them were literal drug dealers.

  • tetris11@lemmy.ml
    9·
    1 day ago

    Nope. I was the satellite friend. I orbit around other people’s friendships and made no effort to foster my own.

  • MerrySkeptic@sh.itjust.works
    8·
    1 day ago

    I went to a private elementary school where I was pretty picked on. One of my parents grew up poor and was an immigrant, the other grew up poor and rural, so neither really understood why I had a hard time socially in a suburban private school with mostly wealthy kids.They didn’t know how to help.

    I transferred to a public middle school where I was neither popular nor unpopular. My elementary years taught me to avoid relationships so I just tried to blend in and keep things very surface level with other kids. I had no close friends but I was not being picked on.

    In high school I developed a couple of closer friendships, but I would not say that I ever completely let my guard down. Like middle school, I wasn’t really picked on but I was certainly not one of the popular kids. I did let myself join athletics so I developed more self confidence, but social relationships were still superficial.

    I’m now in my 40s and have been confronting myself about the fact that other than my wife and kids, I’ve not let myself have too many close relationships. I know it was self protective, but it also kept me isolated. My wife cannot and should not be the one person who meets all my needs.

    I’m putting myself out there a bit more but man is it hard to make new friends at this age. Better late than never I guess.

      • burntbacon@discuss.tchncs.de
        3·
        1 day ago

        Bingo bango. I seethe inside when I hear people talking about forming friendships and smoothly sailing around in social situations, telling others to just be themselves and be happy. The majority of them could never even comprehend what true bullying is. That shit affects you for life, and you’d be lucky if you ever get someone close enough to be able to be open again.

        • Fluffy Kitty Cat@slrpnk.netEnglish
          3·
          1 day ago

          The fact that schools are fertile ground for this type of abuse isn’t talked about enough. It’s only good because it’s the only option left where large numbers of kids gather in one place. If school sucks for you the internet is your only other option

    • dingus@lemmy.worldEnglish
      2·
      1 day ago

      Hey I applaud you for putting yourself out there!

      I think the fact that you’ve managed to marry and have kids is fantastic. It’s a big social hurtle that a lot of hermits never end up making it with, so you should be very proud of yourself for being vulnerable with another human being like that.

      Tbh, I think over time that it ends up quite normal for people as they age to really just have their spouse and kids as their main “friends” without many others externally. So I think you’re doing pretty good on the weirdness and socialization scales haha.

      But yeah I totally get you wanting to allow your wife a breather and have some other buddies to share the “social burden” with (I don’t mean it negatively, just not sure how to phrase it).

      Best of luck to you!

  • MynameisAllen@lemmy.zip
    3·
    1 day ago

    Hell no, I was far more popular out of school, I went to a small private school and was the poor kid there. I was also mentally ill and and addict, so at a Christian school I was reviled. However in my neighborhood and other areas I was well liked and did well socially.

    Now I’m sober, and mentally stable and would say I’m popular within our recovery community

  • charlotte/aleks@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    6·
    1 day ago

    nope. i have various disorders, including autism, making my “friends” think i was incredibly stupid and had the intelligence of an animal. i was bullied, had rumors spread about me, and all sorts of things happened.