If you’re that anti-social why bother with friends at all?
Seems like just you don’t know what you want.
Humans are social animals, no matter how introverted. Sometimes it catches up with you.
(For my mental health, feel free to ignore.)
pov = picture of viewer
…wait, really? is that what we’ve changed it to?
Apparently, since the pov is looking at the introvert, not from him as it should be.
Pov you just realised pov changed
You guys are making the wrong friends. I have…okay 1 maybe 2 friends that I can make plans with and we can bail on each other with no issues.
I love hanging out with them, but I also love hanging out at home with my cats and sometimes I need to cancel when I’m not feeling it. 1 friend in particular usually is happy with it and sometimes cancels on me before I get to do it. We do hang out on occasion, but fuck we love cancelling plans. It feels so good to realize now you don’t have shit to do today and you can just relax.
Learned this the hard way, by not showing up those few special occasions either. Now friendless. No one to blame but myself.
Don’t be too hard on yourself. I don’t think it’s anybody’s fault being how they are. Also, it might be hard to make close friends the older you get you can still meet people with similar interests and just spend some time with other people. Getting out of your own head and seeing others perspectives can really help. Find some groups to join and get over yourself :)
To everyone who still has friends asking you to join. Don’t pass up on those chances. This is the easiest you’ll ever have it.
That mostly applies to “young introverts”.
Once you have this much white in your beard, you’ll have given up on friendships, and will have acquaintances. Good for small talk, occasional discussions, and the rare outing.
My personal issue, at this point is, that I am having trouble figuring out how and who to bring to concerts. I don’t feel like going there alone, but don’t have acquaintances that i feel i can invite. I did once to a live recording of a podcast about some sports, but it was kind of awkward
I’m sure it depends on the introvert, but I have two really good friends. I find I can hang out with those friends basically without draining my social battery, so they’re my main goto for socializing.
Everyone else takes effort.
I learned that i really like to co to concerts by myself, which is something i could’ve never imagined 10 years ago.
Maybe i should try that one day. Thanks!
