I tried it once or twice and it worked well. It’s too stupid now to be worth the attempt. The amount of time spent fixing its mistakes has resulted in net zero time savings.

Thanks, this was really interesting!

I’d say the first option is to simply talk to the mother and offer your help and paint it as a means of helping her out. Keeping the focus on the benefit to the mother and the benefit to the kid as secondary to keep her focused on how it would help her. Sympathize with her situation, she’ll be more amenable and that’s definitely the easiest way to get a constructive dialog going.

If that fails, involving CPS is still available as a fallback option but.0

Yeah, the simplistic “Just be yourself” advice doesn’t take into account the “If you don’t love me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best” type of attitude.

It also bypasses the fact that “yourself” is such a fuzzy concept anyway. So because I’m bad at public speaking, that shouldn’t mean I should “be myself” and avoid it. I should merely be aware of my current limitations. That was an accurate way to describe myself in the past, but instead of accepting it, I worked on it, forced myself into a job that requires it, and now I’m pretty good at it.

I think almost everyone can look back 10 years ago and think of some way they ended up changing. So with that being the case, who knows who we’ll be 10 years into the future? No need to anchor too hard on who we think we are right now, it’s valuable to also give consideration to the kind of person we want to be in the future and take action towards becoming that person.

Yes, just a lot less because theres no app for it, so I only check it from a desktop PC instead of constantly the way I have in the past.

Maybe it’s just me but the volume of interesting posts has fallen off a cliff after July 1st. The front page has much less activity and noticably more of it is reposts (which were there before, just a much higher ratio now).

The niche subreddits were always the key draw though, those still only exist on Reddit and nowhere else on the internet.

I heard somewhere that people on average will make 3 career changes during their lifetime. Which is not a hard fast rule of course but the point is to expect that your goals may change over time as you yourself will also likely change over time.

So in the meantime, I suggest pursuing stable work that gives you a comfortable standard living and maximizing the use of your free time to pursue enrichment in your life and not worrying too hard about trying to get satisfaction from your work.

Sure, it’s not my recipe, I just followed this guy’s recipe: https://youtu.be/l7RAaLZZDZI

I also like Jalalsalamfit on YouTube, he has good stuff too.

Ethan Cheblowski has a great channel, it’s not a health focused cooking channel but he’s an ex-fat person too so he tries to stay cognizant of macros in all the recipes he showcases. Good for learning the systems for cooking healthier. He has a video talking about the systems he applies : https://youtu.be/c1EpTfvPc84

Yeah it takes some more selective choices, but you can make some really good delicious and healthy meals. Certain kinds of foods like deep-fried butter sticks are out of the question but I’ve had a huge brick of cheesecake for breakfast everyday this week because I made it healthy. (21gCarb 3g Fat 41g protein)

Took a while but I changed my usual cooking recipes to macro-friendly versions and my family hasn’t minded at all, still tastes great. Trying to eat healthy outside the house is hard as hell though. Restaurants or premade foods rarely offer anything that fits my needs.

Like conceptually the hard part about eating burgers is the high carb buns and the excess fat in the meat. Can just use 93/7 ground beef, there’s only 170cal in a quarter pound, so why not double it? You just need to be much more careful when cooking it because the lower fat gives you less margin for error. Dress it with a spicy jalapeno cream sauce using Greek yogurt instead to bring back some of the moisture but without adding fat. Use something lower carb than potato roll or buttered brioche and you end up with a juicy burger with a lot more meat than what you’ll get from a restaurant and tastes better if you make it for yourself than some overworked line cook who doesn’t have to eat what he’s firing out the kitchen as fast as possible.

Yeah, it’s very relaxing stress release. I spend a lot of my day looking forward to my lifting between 10-11pm and thinking about what accessory work I’ll be able to get to do after my main lifts.

You can listen to podcasts, nobody is coming to ask you to do something and demand your attention, there’s no other chores to do during that hour.

It’s addicting too, feeds the same itch from video games leveling up, grinding in Diablo for that piece of loot that raises one stat by like 2% you get hungry for those little boosts and they stack up over time and you keep trying to optimize your loadout so you can squeeze out a little more performance from the build, same thing with lifting and trying to keep pushing to the next increase.

There should be no illusions about resisting an attack. That’s not really possible in the modern transparent battlefield. All fixed defenses are struck in the opening salvo, AA defenses, radar networks, airfields. China would take immediate air superiority. Amphibious assaults are ridiculously dangerous, nigh impossible, but every shot fired in defense receives immediate retaliation from the air. This is different from the war in Ukraine where there’s contested airspace instead of one-sided superiority. Mines will slow the landing but without the ability to resist it, its just a matter of time. Deterrence needs to be economic and political, a military deterrent is not going to work on the doorstep of a world power with anything short of nuclear armament.

A Chinese invasion of Taiwan would look nothing like Russia’s invasion of Ukraine. China could attack Taiwan with fires from the mainland, there isn’t a deep depth of terrain within which to hide. It would be more about resisting an occupying force than trying to meet them on the battlefield.

The deterrence here isn’t in stopping an invasion, but from making the fallout so costly that it wouldn’t be worth it. Just rigging the TSMC plants with explosives and blowing them up when an invasion starts would accomplish deterrence more effectively than having soldiers shoot at each other. The unified economic sanctions of Russia after the invasion of Ukraine has been extremely costly and acts as a major message of deterrence against China trying to take Taiwan and risking reduction to the foreign trade that’s so vital to their stability (which is why they’re to develop their domestic market to reduce economic dependence).

Taiwan should stay independent, but it doesn’t make sense to have a lot of people bleed for it.

For daily upkeep it’s best to clean as you go. Little tasks embedded in your other tasks. Like if I need to change my shirt, grab the laundry on the way and put it away before putting on that shirt. It saves 1 trip of walking along the way. Same principle as cooking, you clean as you go. Like you slice meats and start the browning…so turn around and clean the cutting board while you wait for it to brown.

For monthly upkeep we hire cleaners to go through the whole place for 200+25% tip. It definitely costs money, but saves on our time and sanity to not have to remember to do all these little cleaning tasks all over the house that just keep piling up until you “find” time to do it.

I have been playing this game for years. A20 on all characters. Bought it on 3 different platforms. I am still playing it daily, and I’m not sick of it.

I feel that. Trying to make friends online and realizing everyone on the other side is typicallu in their 20s, and while you can enjoy the same things, it’s hard to relate to each other. We’re just not in the same place in life. Joined a discord called “Old Folks” and it’s still people aged 20-30.

Nothing wrong with mundane hobbies. Seems like a lot of people don’t even have mundane ones. Or if they do, they don’t talk about it much. Seems lonely doesn’t it? It feels that way for me. This thing you spend so much of your free time and enthusiasm on, but not many ways to share this enthusiasm with others.