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Cake day: January 24th, 2024

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  • Yeah, idk my info bubble doesn’t give me a great feel for other places but so long as fair elections happen I’ve still got hope right now (though that varies…). Republicans are easily (and rightfully) blamed for a lot of stuff that is making life worse/harder for average Americans right now. Even many deep red states did have high level Democrat representation not too long ago, the surge in progressive representation and voices in my locale and state gives me some belief we can still eke out some positive progress.




  • Being devil’s advocate here. I like to talk about my kid but I also know other people generally don’t care. You care about your kids its rare for other people, even friends and other parents. So idk whether just not mentioning them or caring about yours matters as to his actual dadness. I would also say that your friend may know he’s free those days for one reason or another. Maybe his wife has unreasonable expectations. The kids are always first but it is possible to make time for your relationship and yourself with some communication and luck. There are also often variations in which parent may be “primary” at times.

    I have heard and seen some parenting things done that are well outside what I/we would do. Sleep training at 2mo, a sorta family pacifier (toddler would drop it, dad/mom would put in their mouth then back in toddler mouth), the cry it out method, being super stringent about feeding times and amounts, allowing rolling walkers, letting baby play at 2am, piercing ears, circumcision, etc. These babies are still growing up fine as far as anyone can tell.

    Your friend and his wife need to communicate with each other and may be helped by couples therapy. You also need to communicate with your friend, judging him from a 2ndhand account by a person biased by their involvement and your own standards is wild.