its clearly making a point targeting an unknown group of people, so you tell me

honestly, who is this targeting? conspiracy theorists?

im not pushing anything on anyone?? this is my opinion and i am allowed to have it, i’m not making any laws. i also agree with the other commenter that there’s no way a relationship between a 30 year old and an 18 year old doesn’t have an unbalanced maturity and power level dynamic. this is my opinion.

huh? it is literally exactly for word what i said, so what are you talking about??

“most hopefully they weren’t irresponsible enough to date a teen, that’d be just as yuck no matter the gender”

also, how am i lecturing you?? i dont even know you or anything about you. you replied to me calling my opinion dismissive and i disagreed, point out the lecturing. and anyway, why is there an issue with how i choose to express my opinion on something controversial, or anything in that matter? you find it dismissive that i think middle aged people dating legal teenagers is gross, okay, why should i care that how i expressed it is apparently dismissive??

i dont get how calling someone that age dating a teen ‘yuck’ is dismissive lol

true, i made an assumption. either way, its yuck to date someone fresh out of HS if you’re 10, 20, 30, 40+ years older. imo there’s no reality where an 18 year old should be dating a 30 year old, even though it is legal

most hopefully they weren’t irresponsible enough to date a teen, that’d be just as yuck no matter the gender

god i wish most men were like this. but there’s 50 yr old men out there dating women fresh out of highschool, yuck

i was thinking of putting a collar on him with a note + number attached in case he belongs to someone so they can contact me. he leaves for small amounts of time but always comes back. good thinking.

literally this. i see a lot of mods of niche communities working their ass off trying to generate content with 0 help, including me. and all people do is complain that they aren’t doing enough, it’s not active enough, while doing nothing to help it grow.

be the change you want to see. contribute to your communities, especially niche ones.

i thought lemmy had like 250k+ (?) in total and then kbin.social has like 40-45k

omg so adorable! what kind of cat ?

about the defederation, this comment about it is great: https://kbin.social/m/[email protected]/t/22433/Beehaw-defederated-us#entry-comment-90015

"I think it’s easy to take this personally but I think it’s more about the moderation tools in Lemmy not being adequate at the moment so this is the best bandaid solution for now. We need to quickly put effort into developing better moderation tools like limiting other servers without fully defederating, limiting specific communities, forcing nsfw on communities/instances, proxying reports to origin servers so admins have better feedback on their instance user’s bad behavior, and many other things if we want to prevent defederating like this from being the only option.

I think infighting about this decision and differing moderation styles instead of focusing together on moderation challenges and tooling deficiencies risks tearing the community / federation apart and is counterproductive to the goal of being better than reddit."

there will be growing pains.

Someone on my server came up with a mall analogy which I am extending upon, might be helpful:
Sites are like cities (kbin is a city, lemmy is a city, etc)
Instances are like malls (kbin.social is a mall)
Stores inside a mall are like magazines
Cities can have multiple malls, and the malls all talk to each other and give each other information about what’s happening in their mall in relation to their stores, which is why we can see posts from other instances of the same site.
And what’s more, malls (instances) in different cities (sites) can also talk to malls in another city and pass information about their malls to the other cities’ malls. Cities talk to other cities. Translation: The sites share content with each other.

another analogy: Federation in the fediverse is like a group of islands with bridges connecting them. Each island represents a different platform, and the bridges allow people to travel and interact between the islands. Even though each island has its own unique features and rules, the bridges enable communication and sharing of ideas across the entire network of islands.

I hope this didn’t further confuse you lol. my protest server has extensive explanations and one on one help with this if you’d like.

to me, it was surprising just how easy the fediverse was to understand if i stopped trying to think about it how i was taught to think by centralized platforms.

at first, i was really hesitant to migrate. i was confused by kbin, lemmy, mastodon, and especially the fediverse. i didn’t think i could ever understand it. i wasn’t confident in it. but, after a few hours of exploring, interacting, watching people talk about it and reading explanations, it clicked into place and suddenly made sense, a whole lotta sense. now, i am actually teaching others about what the fediverse is with little to no trouble and helping them migrate to kbin from reddit, and thats amazing. having tons of fun here! 👍