My wife and I picked out her ring together. She has to wear it all the time. I think she should have say in the matter. Ask your partner to help you pick one out.

Lemmy.World isn’t developing it. Some of their team members are contributing but they didn’t start it. I did. I’m the admin of discuss.online

Perhaps it’s your client or the server acting funny. Here are direct links to the open rooms:

• https://matrix.to/#/#sublinks-development-api:discuss.online
• https://matrix.to/#/#sublinks-off-topic:discuss.online
• https://matrix.to/#/#sublinks-development:discuss.online
• https://matrix.to/#/#sublinks-development-federation:discuss.online
• https://matrix.to/#/#sublinks-announcements:discuss.online
• https://matrix.to/#/#sublinks-support:discuss.online
• https://matrix.to/#/#sublinks-git:discuss.online

It’s not dead, perhaps you joined at a slow time. We were just chatting a bunch in there about cursor pagination. There are several rooms if you didn’t notice. General, Frontend, API, & Federation. Along with Announcements and Support.

I’m the founder of Sublinks. I’m happy to answer questions. You can find me on Mastodon @[email protected]. You’re right about the dev blog. We have a weekly Sublinks team meeting, the results of that could go into a weekly dev update. I’ve just been more focused on coding than community stuff. I’ll do better.

Yes, I’ve just been into this idea for a while. I thought about building something like Lemmy about 10 years ago, but everyone said I was crazy to think people would do it. It’s here now, and I want it to grow and be trusted. The only way to do that is to build trusted instances. I took it upon myself to make that happen or at least contribute to it happening.

I prefer the smaller communities. It feels less like shouting into a void.

Yes, when I started talking to other admins that’s when I realized how over prepared I was compared to them.

That’s what made me decide to do the downgrade. I might do it again at some point.

Right now, here is what I’m seeing with the simple DigitalOcean graphs:

The database restarted itself about an hour ago due to load. So I need to scale that or move it into the same Droplet as my other services.

Here are the 24-hour metrics:

Server

DB

It was already in a spiral. I think some people are mores sensitive to the gravity of it.

I had many discussions with Mods when working out the plan for SocialCare.cloud. I never knew what was involved. I even suggested adding a tip jar to each community to help compensate the mods. I was told that was a terrible idea. After further discussion, it seems to be true. Perhaps a more general shared fund would be better.

I see. My server instance is at 5% CPU and 15% memory usage. However, my managed DB instance is constantly near 80%. I’m thinking about moving the database over to the same server and managing my own backups. It’s seems much more DB heavy now.

Yeah, and Mastodon is more ready for growth than Lemmy is. I’d say Mastodon is better than Twitter. Lemmy doesn’t quite have the same polish, yet.

Yeah, I’ve had friends say they’ve noticed a huge degradation since the Rexxit. But they say, “I’m addicted.”

A few Subreddits were planning to come over at the end of the month that didn’t work out. Their members revolted and threatened to replace the mods. So they stayed over there. It would have been over 200k people if they all came over, even if not all members came. I thought I was under planning at the time.

I was reaching out to Reddit mods, trying to convenience them to join my instance. It almost worked, haha.

But in the end, I had to scale down while still maintaining something snappy. The DB is already over 15G, and I want to use a managed db. It’s too large to put on smaller instances.

I was expecting over 200k people to going overnight from Reddit. There were a few communities actively working to come over. In the end the followers revolted against a Rexxit. They didn’t come.

What does yours look like now?

Thanks for sharing!

Thanks,

There was a plan for some Reddit communities with over 200k active users to come over that didn’t work out. They mods were moving over, but the subscribers didn’t want to leave Reddit. So I built for that load. Even if a small fraction came over it’d be busier than any other instance.

For now, I want it to be snappy and have zero outages. The “brand” of Lemmy is new, and if all the instances crash or have outages, then the transition over will be slow, and only true early adopters will endure it.

I’m willing to take a loss to help grow the community. The backend has random outages with CPU & memory, so I’m using the lowest-tier general-purpose dedicated CPU instance. I was using memory-optimized before.

My losses are at least lower now.

Thanks again, Jason

I love this, haha