As somebody with social anxiety, it sounds like your MIL also has social anxiety. Hence, the constant need to have to reinforce that other people can stand her. I had to train this out of myself in my late teens/early 20s.
I know it’s annoying to deal with, but showing a little compassion and simply affirming that you’re exhausted but her relationship with you is secure will go a long way for her. She’ll probably get used to you being quiet around her too.
I think it’s really ironic when I see these memes, because it highlights how our own heads will highlight the things that grate against our own nerves.
I assume everybody that this resonates with resonates with it because they themselves have been told to go against their nature and wanna know why the other side hasn’t.
I’m the other end of that spectrum. I promise you, people told me all that. “Mind your peers. Share the space. Stop being…so much. Learn to be comfortable in silences. What can’t you shut the fuck up?”
I have autism, so I didn’t understand why I was always screwing it up. I also hated hearing, “Be yourself. People will like you for who you are,” because I found that when I stopped trying to mask, I’d immediately hear all of the above all over again.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=hy6imWsyHz8
If you click the line, there’s a video interview with the guy that line is about. Apparently, that line caused a rift between him and Biggie. Wonder why?
The only provider you’d learn coping mechanisms through is a therapist/psychologist/counselor, and they won’t require a diagnosis. However, there’s plenty of YouTube channels, books, websites, and other tools where you can learn a lot of those coping mechanisms you have have missed out on.
If you were talking about getting meds, you can sometimes just find proof of your original diagnosis, and that’ll be enough for your current primary care doctor to medicate you.
If you were under the mistaken impression that you have to get a new diagnosis in order to be diagnosed with ADHD instead of ADD as an adult, you don’t. The term “ADD” is simply defunct now as ADHD and ADD are now considered the same disorder with the hyperactivity in certain individuals sometimes manifesting and not in others. It’s very similar to how the term “Asperger’s syndrome” is obsolete because it’s simply considered a manifestation of autism.
Isn’t it their fault to begin with though? Spanish conquistadors aren’t known for their positive influence on Native American peoples.
ADHD. A lot of people might say depression, and ADHD gets misdiagnosed this way too, especially because people are much more familiar with the way depression manifests rather than how ADHD actually manifests beyond stereotypical hyperactivity and difficulty focusing.
What you’re describing is executive dysfunction and energy regulation problems. The reason you can’t stop scrolling is because your brain doesn’t produce dopamine enough, and it’s only used to the short bursts it can produce. This creates a feedback loop where you’re stuck stimulating yourself with quick, easy dopamine hits, and that’s why anything that seems like a prolonged task feels like an impossible endeavor. It’s also why you’ll get tunnel vision if you ever do start playing that game.
I won’t sit idly by while there is a PRETENDER TO THE THRONE.
I hate to be “that zoologist” (because I’m not a zoologist), but isn’t that a shrew?
A lot of Austin, Texas too.
It is that easy.
Just go to “My Files”, and when it opens, the first thing it shows at the top is “Recent files” and a row of icons for your recently added files.
Finding the file location is also easy. Press and hold. It’ll highlight the item, and at the bottom, you’ll see “More”. One of those options is “Details”. One of those details is “Path”.
You want the president of Argentina to send forces from Venezuela, a country on the other end of South America, to Jerusalem? A country out in the Middle East?
Celery leaves specifically would probably be what they meant. You can actually use them as a substitute for parsley in cooking!
I can’t find the original, so this is a link to a repost on Twitter. Hope it makes you smile like it always does for me.
https://twitter.com/The_YUNiversity/status/1381262764178604032
Bonus: https://imgur.com/oSiajTF
Don’t be a reductionist. If that’s all your cat was and that’s all your relationship was, then fine. If it wasn’t, you owe it to that cat to remember all the good times you two had between when it came to life and when it lost its life. Do it for the cat.
Then, when you’ve finally moved past this point, realize how much joy you gave that cat. Know that you did something beautiful in letting that cat know it was loved from beginning to end. Think about the cat’s perspective. Its death may have sucked; they rarely don’t. Now think about every moment that cat experienced growing up and being with you. Every sense of relief that cat felt when you came home. Every wave of comfort when you gave it pets. Every moment of safety it felt when you cared for it.
I know how sad you are, and I know this is tough love here, but that’s what carried me through losing my dog on Christmas 2022 and her sister December 16th 2023. We did our best. They couldn’t have had happier lives. I’m glad we could do that for them. It was worth the weeks of agonizing grief for the 14 and 16 years of happiness they experienced.
Hydrohomies was a big sub on Reddit for a good while. Idk where it’s at now, but yeah, it’s like a whole thing.
Shitty roommates. :(
Honestly, there are times after my meds wear off that I have literally forgotten what I was going to say halfway through the sentence. Lol
Surprise! My mom does this too, and the frustrating part is that she’s wrong about the second half of my sentence a LOT of the time. It ends up being rude and makes the conversation even longer because I have to waste additional time going, “No, I was going to say…” instead of simply finishing the sentence and continuing on.
So congratulations. You’re playing yourself. (I also have ADHD.)
No suggestions. I just wanna know what the answer ends up being that fixes it for you.