I hate dishwashers, I wash dishes by hand.

I also notice I hate when something I love becomes too popular, precisely because it loses its initial associations with the group I was happy to associate with, and becomes associated with a larger group that I don’t feel connection with (or worse, becomes associated with a toxic fan base I actively don’t want to be associated with - e.g. Rick and Morty, I love the show but developed shame for enjoying it, once it became popular and its biggest fans created negative associations with liking the show; you can tell yourself to ignore the shame, but I admittedly no longer identify as a fan of Rick and Morty because of what it will communicate to people about me).

my mom started to dye her hair when I was a small child, and not joking - I’m still not over it … I really do hold onto things that long, and I’m beginning to wonder if I might be on the spectrum 😅

it’s associative, the negative associations with Call of Duty players cannot be transferred to a console that doesn’t support that game, so for people who want to avoid those associations it’s a plus

I’m mostly joking, but not getting over it so many years later is a symptom of autism, fyi

autism has entered the chat

😭

Embrace, Extend, Extinguish

yes, it is the underlying motivation for all of it, they don’t care about fairness in sports or women’s spaces at all

In May, during a Kentucky Derby-themed event held at the hotel, Ansley Baker and Liz Victor said they were using a women’s multi-occupant restroom when a security guard entered and began banging on stall doors. The guard accused Baker of being a “man in the women’s bathroom,” Baker alleged, yelled that “no men are allowed,” and told her to leave. Baker said she and Victor were “heckled” by other women in line for the bathroom as they were escorted to the lobby, and even after she showed her ID with an “F” gender marker, security forced both of them to leave the hotel.

this story is so dumb … the article leaves out the guard’s gender, but imagine you’re a woman using the restroom and a big dude comes knocking on all the stalls … like, isn’t this the very nightmare case that the conservatives are screeching about with trans women - that men violate women’s spaces?

So the guard knocks on stalls and then physically removes a cis woman from the women’s restroom, then kicks her off the property even after she proves she’s a woman … even worse, the idiocy of the guard is bolstered by the women in line for the bathroom …

Meanwhile, I’m a trans woman, having used restrooms along with bigoted women who are entirely clueless that I’m not cis … they don’t actually care, they can’t even tell - what’s the point? The anti-trans panic has mostly victimized cis women, and when trans people comply with the transphobic policies by using the bathroom of their assigned sex, they get the same treatment: harassed out of the bathrooms, punished, or worse - subjected to assault or rape.

I’m not going to pretend we don’t know why these policies exist, the people who created and push the policies are activists aiming to eliminate trans people, they want to eradicate us entirely - the end goal is to criminalize being trans, to forcefully detransition us in prisons, and when young people present as gender dysphoric, to go back to what they did in the 1960s like electroshock, lobotomies, and institutionalization.

The nicer alternative in the meantime is conversion therapy, which was found to double the risk of suicide … conversion therapy goes against science, medicine, and ethics, which is why so many states have legislation against it.

This isn’t about bathrooms, this is about terrorizing trans people back into the closet.

“we’re sorry we lied now that we’re in trouble for it”

having cleaned both men and women’s restrooms for a living, I can confirm the women’s is often just as dirty as the men’s

(overall I personally felt women’s restrooms were worse; I’ve never had to clean up blood in a men’s restroom, but it wasn’t infrequent that there was blood on the floor and seats in women’s restrooms)

this would probably just lead to the corporation taking more and more of a role until they take over development of the FOSS projects they care about, which is a particular nightmare I would prefer to avoid

was upset enough when Microsoft bought Github

this, I hate using GUIs - they’re slow and inconvenient in so many ways

also, terminal commands can be thrown in a script to easily automate or schedule tasks, unlike all that manual clicking in a GUI

also wondering how to do this!

that’s great, thank you - I think it’s important to spread the word!

I do feel like the cis people I know who are aware of the JK Rowling connection to transphobia are mostly either media industry insiders who keep up with the current news, or LGBT+ folks or allies who are generally paying attention to politics and culture.

That said, the response to Rowling’s transphobia has often been rather muted, most people I talk to or observe seem to not feel it rises to the level of boycott or abandoning Harry Potter - and there has even been surprise at how serious the extent of Rowling’s transphobia is. I remember when Hank Green got cancer and he watched ContraPoints’ video on the topic, he and his nurse who was caring for him as he watched the video expressed surprise at how bad it was, etc.

What is your experience with your cis friends - are they usually aware, and what is their reaction?

not sure most cis people are aware of the association between JK Rowling, Harry Potter, and her transphobia… maybe the cast and crew are aware and choosing a paycheck over association with a known transphobe, but I don’t think it’s as guaranteed as it may seem to us

it’s an honor to be your first upvote 🫡

ha, I’m already unemployed, they screwed themselves on that one

Are you talking about the time he screwed up his estradiol cream dose (which he uses as a cosmetic) and accidentally over-dosed himself with estrogen and experienced gender dysphoria?

phytoestrogens in foods like soy beans don’t function like estradiol, it’s basically a myth that soy has any feminizing hormonal effects

here’s a quick overview: https://extension.unh.edu/blog/2021/05/why-are-some-people-so-afraid-soy