I dunno. I have lots of problems with textures (and textures that feel good as well). Might be ADHD, might just be me being weird. But plates, cups, and silverware especially shouldn’t be greasy and if you fry anything you’ll get grease everywhere.

Glass front doors. The grease. Good God, the grease all over everything you own.

Having a diagnosis officially opens up some doors for the world to wait for you. That’s one of the major helpful parts of having the diagnosis. It means that you are officially diagnosed with a disability, and that certain allowances would be made for you under the law (if you live in a country with such provisions).

Even without medication, that can make a world of difference and is an important factor in getting an official diagnosis.

Extra time for college or work assignments, a more flexible schedule, a private work space, noise canceling headphones, etc can be beneficial along with the coping mechanisms he’s trying to get you to develope in order to facilitate a better management of your condition.

That’s probably the conversation you should be having with this therapist. Because if he can’t legally give you a diagnosis he should put in a referral for a doctor who can. And if he can give you a diagnosis, I think he should be doing the job you pay him for.

This is one of the things that smart phones have done for me.

I may not remember I wrote it down, but I will remember where because it’s in the notes app on my smart phone.

That being said, this obviously still doesn’t really solve anything if I don’t even remember there was something to be written down.

And it creates a brand new problem if I do remember because then I get caught up scrolling through notes trying to figure out what they mean, if I still need them, and lamenting that I didn’t remember to check notes for these other things back then.

Yeah. This is a problem with how Facebook implements things.

I understand your fears. I live in the US. My son is autistic. My youngest brother is autistic. Both I and my youngest sister have ADHD.

We were all diagnosed as children and my parents could only afford to help the worse off of us (my youngest brother) so that’s where their time, effort, and money went.

I struggled for years. My sister struggled for years. Because there was no support for us.

But I want you to understand that (as someone who suspects they also have Autism), the support for children with autism and ADHD far outweighs what is available for adults, and it might be more beneficial to him to give him support now than to allow him to suffer in some aspects without it.

The support he’s already getting likely won’t cover everything.

I would fight for your son and my son and all the others who could likely be affected by the current regime. Others will too. There’s so many more of us than people think and there’s power in that.

At the end of the day your child and his care is your business. I’m sure you’ve thought this through a million times.

I just wanted to express that there’s a downside to it.

They knew what I meant and chose to ignore the meaning to avoid the question.

So when a kid commits suicide because the Generative AI LLM agreed with him in a harmful way?

Edit: In before someone says something about how the gun manufacturers still shouldn’t be held accountable.

Gen AI LLM’s in this instance are products working as intended/designed, and are being used in a way that the manufacturer knows is harmful and admits is damaging. They also admit that there are no laws to safeguard persons against how the AI is designed, implemented etc and these things don’t even have warning labels.

Guns by contrast have lots of laws involving how and where they can be sold and accessed, as well as by whom, and with respect to informing the user of the dangers. You don’t sign a EULA or a TOS when you buy a gun, waiving your rights to sue. You don’t agree to only arbitration.

My sister (who also has ADHD and has only been diagnosed for about 2 years now), sent me this. She thinks it may help, but your mileage may vary greatly.

Emotional damage goes both ways.

Can you tell us about your symptoms?

Are you officially diagnosed?

Do you live in a place with protections for persons with a Neurodivergent Disability?

Does your employer know you have ADHD, and, if so, are there any accomodations they can provide for you that would help?

Have you tried caffeine or energy drinks?

As I would expect of an Odin.

I gazed. It was a good time. 15/10 floof.

So long as you download and install a compromised app first.

Dubbed “Pixnapping,” this attack vector begins when a victim unknowingly installs a malicious mobile application on their Android smartphone. -Pixnapping could be used to steal private data, including 2FA codes. -Side-channel attack abuses Google Android APIs to steal data on display. -Flaw is partially patched, although a more complete fix is due in December.

“The fastest way to kill motivation is to make your identity depend on the outcome. This is called " Ego Involvement” - when failing becomes failing as a person, your brain starts avoiding the whole thing. It’s not because you don’t care, or are lazy, but because you care too much.

To overhaul this thought process and it’s resultant consequences on your life, it’s important to recognize that this is what’s happening, and to detach your self worth from everyday tasks/work that needs to be done.

This is part of the reason that doing for others when you can’t do for yourself works.

It also sort of explains why body doubling works for some. It adds an outside pressure we care more about, and demotes the self worth aspect we place on whatever task needs to be done.

This does not mean that you’ll be able to use the coping mechanisms of others to achieve your goal though, sometimes getting proper medical care and mental health care is what allows you to develope coping mechanisms that work for you.

Annoyance at others motivates me. If I put a dish in the sink? That’s fine. The only person I can be mad at is me and my self worth is attached to it, but that’s a problem for later me. If my husband puts a plate in the sink? I’m annoyed, both at him and at the fact that there’s clutter and I’m more motivated to deal with it before it becomes a stack of plates etc.

This is a coping mechanism I have that doesn’t necessarily work for other people. Maybe they don’t live with someone else. Maybe they have a different dynamic and relationship with the people they do live with. But it works for us.

Another of my coping mechanisms is lists, and I have lists for everything. But I separate the lists into categories. This helps me break things down so I don’t become overwhelmed.

I know for a fact that this absolutely does not work for a lot of people I have known with ADHD.

As I have gotten older I have cared less and less about what people think. Somehow this includes myself. Who am I? Why should my thoughts and feelings be any more or less valid than some random person on the street who I not only wouldn’t take advice from, but also might tell where to stick it if I felt judged by them in specific circumstances?

That’s not really something that you can implement necessarily using strategy. And it’s probably not something that happens to everyone, certainly not to the same degree.

Sometimes for me it’s as simple as recognizing that I do need help and then the problem becomes asking for help or being honest about needing it. I loathe asking for help. It feels like failure to me. In the right circumstances that’s enough to motivate me to do it myself. The anxiety of having to ask for help is worse than the lost feeling of missing executive function.

I don’t know how to explain how to do that for another person. I spent 40 years developing a haphazard and cobbled together house of random coping mechanisms that work for me and I’m not sure how another person would implement them.

But I will say that what you describe does sound like a disorder with your executive function and not laziness. And I will say that ADHD is not the only Neurodivergent condition that has executive dysfunction.

Because that is the case it may be beneficial to you to get a second opinion not just about the ADHD but about just having executive dysfunction and the likely cause given your medical and psychological background.

Damn. Allegedly they hacked this nursery group, stole a bunch of PII including photos of children which they then posted to the dark web, while calling said children’s parents in order to blackmail the nursery group for Bitcoin.

Teenagers. This is nuts.

Something that was already known. It’s one of the reasons the privacy community online are so against using any old VPN you can find, and urge known good paid options.

I don’t work in a programming field but this explains a lot about why I went through and redesigned the intake forms at my old job to be mostly check boxes, and why I hate the way accessory instructions are laid out. If it has no words but just pictures? No thanks. If it has all words and no pictures? No thanks. If it doesn’t lay out the installation in a way that makes step by step sense from start to finish? No thanks. Double back to this step or that step? Nah. I’m good.

There’s an image of a guy with a cutaway into his brain and his brain is just a ball of different highways with cars zooming along at all different speeds in all different directions. I can’t find this image right now but that’s it. That’s my ADHD brain. And there’s music playing.

The image below is the closest I could find.