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  • Snowclone@lemmy.worldtoMemes@lemmy.mlExterminate
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    2 months ago

    I once asked an exterminator I hired at a job site what a particular bug was called, as I only knew them as ‘blood suckers’ growing up. He then huckled at me and said ‘‘I call em dead after I get through with em’’ and I realized Dale Gribble was a cartoon character who wasn’t based on a true story.



  • Wow it’s really hard to pin down a definition of Nihilism. Anyway, I always saw Nihilism as a view that nothing is meaningful, that everything means nothing. But not that nothing matters. If you have no meaning to ascribe value to anything or anyone, you wouldn’t find meaning in unnecessary harm or discomfort to others, in a harm reduction mindset.






  • There is no excuse or explanation that makes rape and sexual abuse to anyone, particularly children in any way OK.

    The point of this is understanding the abuser, how they think and operate to the end that knowing can combat their abuse of others.

    To that end, the nuance they are trying to point out is that rapists, while also 90% of the time picking victims they know, aren’t sexualizing children, they are raping, the harm and truama is the point, they are sadistically attacking, they aren’t sexualizing.

    A pedophile is sexualizing children, it’s a paraphillia outside of human sexuality. There are people who sexualize objects, actions, things that aren’t a part of inborn human sexuality, that’s what this is except rather than harmless it’s incredible, inhuman harm.

    Rapists can wait a long time to find an opportunity to rape their victim, or have detailed plans with lots of preparation, but the underlying motivation of the abuse is rape, attack, harm, not sex or sexuality.

    A pedophile will also often have very longterm prep to gain the opportunity to sexually abuse, job choices, religious choices, seeking community positions, and may spend a lot of time grooming their victim for abuse, for them the motivation is sexual. They sexualize children and that’s the motivation of the abuse

    It’s all rape, it’s all child abuse, it’s all traumatic and life damaging, and should carry MUCH harsher sentencing, it should be up there with murdered 1. But in an effort to understand what is happening and how to detect it, prevent it, or expose it, the researched data is important. There are a lot of adults who were themselves victims of abuse whom spend a lot of time researching these topics to combat them. It’s worthwhile.


  • You’re mostly over reacting. You’re on the first few days, months, or year at this work environment, you’re not going to feel plugged in to it by yourself or coworkers right off the bat. You’re also making the mistake a lot of people make in any interpersonal interaction, you had one good interaction, and you didn’t get reciprocated treatment, so you assume it’s not working. One interaction isn’t enough, you need many, 10-12 interactions are more realistic. Your new, so the burden is on you to provide the majority of the interaction.

    You aren’t wrong AT ALL about not going out of your way to interact with people who seem distant, or standoffish with you. Not being forceful with interactions shows respect and intelligence. Go for natural interactions and remember, you’re a dozen more interactions away from even seeing if this is working. At the same time focusing on people who are friendly and open to you is a wise choice, some people won’t warm up to you until you have established connections in their workplace.

    Also as an introvert that worked in sales for a long time, you’re not understanding what introvert means, or maybe the way you’re talking about it is awkward to me. Introverts make great sales people, I can talk to an introvert on day one and say ''when you’re asking if they want the service package, you have to explain all service after purchase is 100% free, and includes a regular yearly maintenence service, and all can be in home service, they think it’s an extended warranty if you don’t explain it’s a service package" and they will get all points across every pitch, and typically they will focus on word choice and reading customers. Extroverts? It’s at least three conversations about this, and I have to coach their word choices.

    Introvert just means you’re exhausted by socially interacting with others, it doesn’t mean you bad at it, or you fear it, it mostly means you’re not having fun when your talking to someone, you’re working. Lots of benefits in that, and lots of draw backs, but it’s not a lack of capability in you, it’s just a skill, and like every skill you need to practice before you get good at it. Also leaving yourself stretches of no social interactions during your work day so you don’t get burned out is also a very good idea.

    You’re on the right path, just be consistent, and accept it takes time to get folded in at a workplace, and never take it personal. If you’re there for more than a year and you feel like they haven’t accepted you, then there’s some serious problems at that particular workplace that are out of your control, and you might consider moving on, or location change, whatever your profession allows that’s also in your favor.