Well, I suppose bending over for a couple of dictators to fuck you (but more importantly, your people, and then who ever those two decide to invade next) is a kind of posture… 🙄

All I can say to this bizarre reply is that the whitewashed version of history (never mind current events, since some of those conflicts are still ongoing, violently, today) you were taught at school, or hear about in the msm isn’t the reality, and that none of those conflicts were fucking peaceful, or came to a conclusion because those in power just decided to give it up.

Pick up a fucking book (or watch a video, or listen to a podcast, however you take information in, go and do that, but only if you can cope with challenging your bias, otherwise it becomes a completely pointless exercise)

E: Like, honestly, do you seriously believe there is any point in talking to Putin? Do you think an open and proud totalitarian known for throwing his opponents out of windows is a trustworthy person who will have good faith and stay true to his word? Do you fucking hear yourself???

Lmfao, where did I even imply that? Talk about projecting… 😂😂😂

I’m not sure who “you people” are, but at no point did I claim to know what’s best, but I sure as fuck know, from knowing history and paying attention, that tyranny doesn’t go away by asking nicely. Never has, never will.

So a better question would be wtf is with you claiming you know anything at all about global conflict or fascism? Its like you’re larping as a wilfully ignorant and overly confident centrist who is happy to lay others lives on the line and let war rage on as long as we aren’t mean to a dictator. 🙄

The idea that it is possible to “diplomacy” your way out of conflict with a dictator is so absurd I want to laugh my ass off, but unfortunately it isn’t funny at all.

Putin will happily send every last Russian in to the meat grinder before he accept defeat, and now that he has his American buddy back in place, now with added musk funds, it is seriously delusional to think the situation is going to do anything other than escalate.

Zelenskyy is being beyond naive at best (I honestly don’t believe he believes in what he’s saying).

Unless you can ask a straight man how many guys he’s slept with, it isn’t gender neutral, no matter how resistant to this fact you are.

E: the fact that neither of you give a shit about the people telling you the term isn’t gender neutral, doesn’t apply to us, and that we don’t feel comfortable with you using it to speak to or about us says it all. No matter how much mental gymnastics you do to convince yourself otherwise you are the ones choosing to be the problem instead of actually listening to others and showing some basic respect. It’s an easy fix, too - all you have to do is give a minimal fuck about others.

Hey…

Folks

Friends

Comrades

Everyone

People

Pals

You motley crew

Weirdos

Siblings

Fuckers

…how you doing, wanna go to the movies?

(this is by no means exhaustive list, the point is there are plenty of existing and perfectly acceptable alternatives, pick one, or more, and get comfortable with it)

The literal meaning isn’t gender neutral, but in actual practice, it 100% is.

Unless you can ask a straight man how many guys he’s slept with, it isn’t gender neutral, no matter how resistant to this fact you are.

I love banana bread, but hate fresh bananas, so I never buy any. I guess that’s one way to solve this problem… 😂

Every single one of them is telling on themselves.

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This.

One of the best ways to confront a bigot is by pretending to be completely naive of their intentions, and getting them to dig their own hole by repeatedly asking them to explain what they mean.

If you seriously can’t make your point without ridiculing people who have literally lost everything, in many cases even their lives, maybe don’t make the fucking point.

Yeah, it can be hard because everyone has shit going on, it’s why having someone in your life whose specific job is to help you with stuff like this is so helpful, because it feels less like pilling on to someone else. You can of course hire a PA, but that becomes expensive, but it’s definitely worth looking around, try ADHD/neurodiversity specific charities or organisations, but depending on your circumstances you might qualify for other types of places too.

Also, don’t be embarrassed, I’ve taken years to sort shit out, life is already so overwhelming, having additional barriers to deal with these aspects of life can make it almost impossible at times. You’re doing your best.

it’s a little easier said than done.… it’s weirdly difficult to get help and executive dysfunction can be a real bitch.

Oh 100%, executive dysfunction really is an absolute bitch, and getting through that wall can be the hardest fucking part!

Not to mention just how hard it can be to find medical staff that isn’t burnt out to the point of not giving a crap… :/

I know it seems like just adding an extra step, but have you considered checking if there are any (volunteer) patient advocacy services available near you? I have some other difficulties too, so more help might be available to me, and also I don’t know where you are, in US it might be too big an ask, but having an advocate has been a game changer for me - they help make calls for you to arrange appointments and follow ups and stuff, help liaise with staff if you need them to, basically they jump a lot of the hurdles for you to help you get to where you need to be.

If something like that isn’t available, is there anyone in your life that you’d trust to advocate for you? In any case, you’d need to give permission to your provider to speak to them on your behalf, which again seems like just an extra step, but I really think that sharing some of the burden of acting with someone else can be a great help (though it might not work for you, and that’s ok too).

That’s outrageous, you shouldn’t have to deal with this bullshit.

I agree with the other reply - report them and find a new GP, I know that’s a massive pain and hassle, but it’s so important to have a medical team that is there to help you make your life better, not judge and police you according to their own questionable morals.

When I was a kid my parents wanted to open up an existing cavity under our house to build a basement, and that never happened because it (E: was discovered during the building inspection that it) was full of Radon. I guess I’m desensitised (but possibly slowly decaying a little faster than I should be…).

This is incorrect. Not only did humans used to work significantly less and we (the working class, anyway) in the past few centuries have less leisure time than ever, but if anything, the introduction of what you consider “civilisation”, and especially class and money, harmed art more than anything by giving the power and control over it to those who aren’t creating it, and leaving those who are, starving, like the rest of the plebs, or completely undiscovered due to lack of privilege, opportunity, and access.

They can find another line, or skip trying to be funny altogether if the only way they can think of is gendered and they can’t be arsed to check the gender of the person they’re talking to.

And lets be honest - it wasn’t that good a joke.

Either way, it really isn’t fucking difficult, and is definitely easier than whatever the fuck this mess is.

Your app would ideally just respect display names and it would require no extra effort on your part to gender people correctly.

Even if pronouns aren’t displayed, it takes even less effort to use neutral pronouns for everyone unless you know otherwise.