Not good at receiving criticism in the moment, kind of defensive. I can hear it but cannot immediately say “yeah you are right”, it feels more like insult than help. Some of this is leftover hangups from my ex, who was quite cutting, mean about it. But some just my own immature tendencies. I have pretty much learned not to react and wait until I can think about it more objectively.
Oh yes. I call them by their names and they know their names.
A house, a car, and enough to pay all the bills and still have some lifestyle, without the terror of knowing you are one job loss away from homelessness and starvation. Able to retire for 25 years before dying.
I think for us (a family not a single person) that really is a million in the bank and 200k per year. We don’t have that, nor do many others.
As a cap? I think nobody needs to accumulate more than 5 million in cash and other assets. Less if you live somewhere with reasonable pension and healthcare.
We do exactly the same as you, with one difference. For bath towels we have 2 sets and alternate them, so as we wash one set, we put out the others and put away the washed ones when done. Only replace if they fall apart, I don’t know how long that takes, maybe 15-20 years? So maybe yes with one set 8-10 years sounds about right?
Kitchen towels wear out faster, harder use and hot water wash with bleach. Bath towels last a long time, cold water wash then dryer.
I am bigger around than a short lady, but proportionally more taller than wider, elongated. I am not sure why it works that way.
What I wonder about more is fat people. My shape is defined by my skeleton, I’m not that skinny but like, my ribcage and hipbones, shoulders are my frame, the outer edges of my body shape. If someone is so fat, how does their body extend far past the bones, what holds it up? Or do they have a wider skeleton?
I had a boyfriend in England, he was Scottish (town southwest of Glasgow) but had lived in Canada, so the accent was muted. I am from Florida with parents from Louisiana so southern but not Southern l. I liked when he got drunk because he got more Scottish and he liked when I got drunk because I sounded Southern.
I am never sure how time works at all. It’s possible that everything we experience is just rolling out from some original cause, everything happening is just an effect caused by what came before, essentially has already happened, in a way, you cannot change anything.
If that is true, then yes. You are an effect caused by your parents’ actions and they in turn were an effect of their own parents’ actions, on and on back to the origin of the universe.
If it works the way it feels to us, and we are choosing actions, then no. You can modify yourself and choose to do things not caused by your upbringing, there is not just one path already laid out before you. If that’s the case, I’d think just asking the question at all is a good start, deciding what you want to keep from your past and what you want to change, living intentionally, mindfully.
I do think upbringing plays a big part in shaping a person and have often said that if a baby was dropped on my doorstep I do think it would end up being like my other kids, more than different. Especially at this point when all those other kids are adults and would also be influential.
The worst Mexican food I’ve had was in San Antonio Texas, believe it or not.
Where I live, if you find a hole-in-the-wall Mexican place it will be fantastic, I thought that rule held everywhere. Oh no. No, no, no.
Remarkably bad food, so bad. Mole made with sweetened milk chocolate. American cheese in the enchiladas. Comically bad. Absolute shit food. And outside of that one horrible experience, overall very hit or miss. How? They literally WERE Mexico! I was expecting something so good. The only great food we got there was at a hipster breakfast place.
It’s funny because Tampa does bat way over its league in restaurants generally. We have amazing food here, all over. Why is “the” food that sandwich? It’s good but def overrated.
I agree on lobster because I think crab tastes better.
Agree on truffles, I think they are just expensive because they are rare and fragile, not because they are magically delicious.
People here LOVED Dave’s hot chicken. I went and really, it’s fine, I’d eat it but wouldn’t affirmatively choose it, if getting industrial fried chicken Popeyes and Publix are both better.
And man do people love Cuban Sandwiches here. Again, I will eat them they are fine but mostly because the bread is so good. Would rather just have a roast pork on the bread, dressed, without the ham & salami, or even the cheese toast on Cuban Bread I think is so good. There is nothing magical about the 3 meat combo.
Chilaquiles slap.
Tacos al pastor, yum. Never thought I could like pineapple in savory food.
Sopa Tarasca is heavenly.
Simple bean burrito with refried pintos, shredded cheddar cheese, chopped onion & chipotle salsa is something I would eat for breakfast, lunch or supper.
Respectfully disagree, I do rate it highly and think it belongs there. Even the simple stuff (if by mush you mean refried beans) is seasoned well and delicious. Tasty mush.
Well not so common but at least a couple times a week I see the ones with four back tires, too wide for the road, on the road.
Also those ridiculous cybertrucks.
His other songs feel better to sing IMO, Last of my Kind and If it Takes a Lifetime are both so satisfying to sing.
I like to sing but have a good range of about half an octave. Here are the two extremes for me.
Cherokee by Kamasi Washington has an angelic singer who I cannot stand to sing with, I just listen.
We always belt it on C’mon Baby Cry by Orville Peck though even though nobody in my house can hit both his low and high falsetto notes, his voice & range is crazy good. I’m sure it sounds bad but feels so good to sing.
I get so mad seeing these in the parking garage at work. Like, you drove that to park it at an office and then go up the elevator? WTF? And yes I’m in West Central FL and the arms race of ever bigger vehicles is insane.
Though at least my neighborhood isn’t just a bunch of those garage houses, it’s older and varied and not many garage front houses. So many trucks though. Some are guys who need them for work, some are not.
Eh? Comics are stories. I love reading books, so much, and never found it fatiguing? By easier to draw, do you mean “a picture is worth a thousand words”? Like it’s easier to convey meaning in pictures? Maybe, but I love long books, short stories and comics too.
If you want a great story, here is one for your group
https://www.lightspeedmagazine.com/fiction/the-fiddler-of-bayou-teche/
Little bits of money, sure. Surveys, selling stuff on eBay or Etsy or whatever. I never found it worthwhile, can make so much more money working at a job. Most I ever made was $200, twice. Once for designing logic for a quiz to determine hair porosity, once for an interview when some medical product I got failed.
That is over the entire history of the Internet. Otherwise it’s just been a dollar or two once in a while.
I don’t know if this helps but I do very much enjoy being female -bodied, like I loved being pregnant and nursing, love having sex, I enjoy the body I am in. I don’t think much about any mental or emotional aspect to being a woman, don’t feel particularly feminine or anything like that.
But I suspect if I had been born in a male body, I would feel “off” and wish for a female one.
The fuck? Fishy smell is an infection, not a healthy vagina. You are usual, no worries.
We have crab cakes, some snacks you heat in the oven (jalapeno poppers and bean empanadas), tinned fish like sardines and similar, and cheese and crackers. And a “champagne” the Cava Raventos Blanc Blanc de blancs which is the best bubbly white wine I have ever had and not even expensive.
New Year’s Day is black eyed peas, collard greens, and potatoes. Yum.