Yes. Cats here should be indoor cats. Even in the city there are raccoons, coyotes, alligators, dogs in people’s yards, and CARS. I let them out briefly and supervised, sometimes, to catch a lizard if they are watching them out the window. Or as others say, occasionally on a harness to wander the garden, and eat a little grass.

Obviously that’s not always possible, there are feral outdoor cats that sometimes show up, the city has a spay/neuter and release program for those.

It’s hard to say without knowing the first name, go with what sounds good together. Or use your first name as your last name. Olivia Olivia or Esther Esther.

I watch plenty of animated stuff but not specifically kids stuff. Movies I would, shows not so much.

Books, though? Some of the best written and most interesting books I’ve read as an adult were labeled as YA books.

Never mind - looking through the comments at what is called kid cartoons, yes I do watch them.

I have an address modifier for my physical home address (a description to help delivery people find it) and always just use that when there is a ‘company’ field on anything not related to my job. So basically, I make something up, say my home is my business.

But I like the idea of “Independent” a lot. I’m sure they aren’t trying to keep you out, just trying to help you network.

Stare directly at the people who are treating you like a freak for staring out the window.

Gazing out the window and zoning out are absolutely normal human behaviors.

Absolutely not. Arrogant and asshole would disqualify him from being hot, even if in shape and good looking. And obviously he wouldn’t be likeable.

I think people misunderstand the “confidence is sexy”. It’s not arrogance or cockiness, more like the sort of self-confidence that makes you feel the person accepts themselves and you. The people who are easy to talk to and who listen. That kind of just being at ease with the world, that most of us struggle with. That is the sexy confidence.

I have not found one. If I come in at 9, leave at 18, or 18:30, if I come in at 8, same. So I come in at 9.

But in general here it’s a 9 hour day with an hour break for lunch, that makes the 8 hour workday.

You don’t need belief to measure prices, or wages.

Here, kids usually call the parents Ms. Firstname. On sir/ma’am, I did tell my kids to use that with servers, cashiers, housekeepers.

Yeah I hate it and not even going to show it to my husband, he would be looking to buy one.

No. Cooking any food makes me more hungry. Even in the decades I was vegetarian it didn’t bother me, honestly.

It’s normal here (Florida US) “wow that’s a big watermelon”. “Looks like you are having a party!” “Hey, I haven’t tried that, it’s good?”. Or just weather or OMG your baby is so cute, or whatever. General small talk.

I remember once a lady saw me buying a diet coke and asked “does that work?”

I think the US is sort of a middle ground on random conversations. Not super friendly but not aloof.

Yes, of course. Most people die from something. I think OP’s point stands though. Enough morphine puts you far away from the pain even if it doesn’t lessen it (I have used it that way for my very rare status migraines before the state disallowed it) and that does provide relief. When I get there, overdose sounds like the best of the set of bad choices available.

Yeah my ex and his brother were tripping and cooking and caught the wok on fire; I was like “guys, the kitchen is full of smoke and fire” and as ex brother outlaw was a chef his muscle memory worked but not before my lunatic ex tried to pick up the burning pan with his hand. Leading to the emergency room visit that taught me just how evil for-profit healthcare is.

Your premise is wrong. Most people don’t mind working, as long as it has a clear link to some personal benefit. We exercise to stay fit, I grow food and cook for my family, and honestly don’t mind working at my job.

I read somewhere that 4 hours a day of work is ideal, and agree with that. We work too much, that doesn’t mean we don’t want to work at all

I’m with the consensus here, it’s a great plan. It will challenge you without bothering anyone else. I read somewhere (can’t remember where) that generally, people wildly overestimated how bothered others were by random conversations out in the world. Like your chances of hitting someone who will be receptive are better than you think.

I do think that on a phone or computer one ought to be able to opt out, like how shops who spam me in email say “do you want to opt out of mother’s day emails?” Because they don’t want to send them if your mom or kid just died, right?

But I don’t know how you would do that without sort of registering as an alcoholic, which seems problematic.

I’m literally subscribed to an industry newsletter and research cocktails for the community here, and haven’t seen very many ads for any sort of alcohol though? Are you really seeing them all the time?

Sure, yes. I don’t even do drugs anymore, and was never really into opiates when I did, but my experience coming out of anaesthesia with a nurse who was remarkably free handed with opiates in the IV as she didn’t want me to wake up quite yet convinced me that is the way to go. Let me just float out on a soft cloud. It’s an annoying feeling when awake and trying to do anything; but as a death it seems perfect.

I dunno, my ex was ok with the kids, and I was able to sleep & nurse at the same time (small boobs) but breastfeeding knocked my libido down to less than zero. Usually I run pretty hot, but while nursing it was like I couldn’t care at all about sex, it felt like a chore, and when we did, I had both fear (because childbirth) and had to work just to get to a baseline level of desire at all. I always figured it was a natural birth control thing, nature helping so kids don’t come too close together.

I am sorry to say I think all women have experience with this. For me, I mostly just was not as traumatized as I’d expect someone to be, it would be more traumatic to bring it up, so I just moved on. Only if someone asks do I disclose it. If it was someone who later became powerful I might feel different though, right? Might feel like if he did that to me, he doubtless hurt others, and it might possibly do some good.