Nong Shim Spicy flavor are our ramen and I love some Very Hot sauce, sure. Do I want everything to be spicy? No.

When we get takeout Indian food, I ask for Channa Masala as spicy as they’d make it for their grandma, like ever so very spicy, more than anyone else in my house enjoys. Everything else I ask for mild (unless it’s that Vindaloo Chicken, that ought not be mild) and enjoy it all.

Most food I would say I do not make so spicy, maybe 10% of what I cook, but, that 10% I have to make not as spicy as I want so that everyone else can enjoy.

I saw them here, before they got famous. They did a big tour in a white van, played a bar here with a crowd of about 30 people! Bought the last shirt from the hands of Kurt, I had absolutely no idea they would get famous, they were so far from anything getting played on the radio. I only knew about them because my brother’s friend gave me a tape with them, Mudhoney, Tad.

Swear to God I cannot predict to save my life but live a few years in the future. You could have knocked me down with a feather when they got famous, and I think they were just as surprised.

I agree with you. They were good but not great.

That is literally what Allegra D is.

I agree with the consensus here- you are thinking about this wrong. Allegra-D, the one behind the counter in my state, is an allergy medicine we use for colds, because it works better than anything labeled as cold medicine.

If you are saying you want something that treats allergies, and by treating them unstuffs your nose, that Allegra-D will work. I don’t understand why you think it won’t. The pseudoephedrine in it (the D in the name) is a vasoconstrictor that will open your nose.

If it’s the same drug labeled as a cold medicine, it would work exactly the same.

I’ve seen pictures of people from the past with my hair type, from the time before conditioner. I will buy conditioner. Styling goops too. Do you mean everyone should cut their hair so short it doesn’t matter? I like having styled hair - will agree it’s culture/marketing but so what?

Could use shampoo as body wash, sure, not so different. I don’t use natural soaps because in hard water they do more harm than good. Conditioner is a non negotiable. Sometimes I just rinse and condition, but never wash without conditioner-ing.

My husband keeps his hair very short but that involves haircut every two weeks, it’s not cheaper overall.

That doesn’t happen to me, but I cook for my family every day, usually just once. (So not so infrequently It’s something unusual, but not so often it’s a drag). It’s more like an appetizer or something.

If you have enough sinks, or a big enough pot to soak them in, one soak in hot soapy water, wash them all in the next sink, do your scrub-scrub without rinsing then rinse them all in bulk, then final rinse by dipping them into a sink full of hot water with a little bleach.

Then dry them with a clean towel.

That’s how we hand wash when the dishwasher was broken and someone in the house was sick. Because otherwise my husband will wash them with the water running the whole time.

Guy with knife in my face, I looked right at him and said what the fuck? He said he was trying to talk to me & I didn’t respond and I just said that a knife was NOT the way to get someone to talk to you and he put it away, walked me to my floor and said thanks & bye.

I don’t know, exactly, and just like a gun surely it wouldn’t work in every situation but de-escalation works more often than you might think.

Only once have I had to use violence, I kicked a guy off me (I am physically stronger than I look, not objectively strong but enough to surprise someone) kicked like a fucking kangaroo, so hard he hit the wall and believe it or not, it shocked him into stopping what he was doing and I left.

Ha!

Same here. I have had a knife pulled on me in a dark stairwell, have had several dangerous situations and at no point did I wish for a gun, it would have escalated those situations and made them worse. I have been able to deescalate, shock guys into being nice way more often than I would ever have imagined possible.

I’m not saying NO situation is better with a gun but not nearly as many as you think. Hopefully most people with guns never need to use them. People who sell guns sell fear, it’s becomes the “if all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail” problem.

Figure if I have made it half a century without needing one, it isn’t likely I will need one now.

I get a quarterly magazine from the Bruderhof, I would consider that cult Real Christians. They live in community, don’t own things individually, are pacifists, and seem overall to be actual Christians, in the way I understand Christianity.

We have crab cakes, some snacks you heat in the oven (jalapeno poppers and bean empanadas), tinned fish like sardines and similar, and cheese and crackers. And a “champagne” the Cava Raventos Blanc Blanc de blancs which is the best bubbly white wine I have ever had and not even expensive.

New Year’s Day is black eyed peas, collard greens, and potatoes. Yum.

Not good at receiving criticism in the moment, kind of defensive. I can hear it but cannot immediately say “yeah you are right”, it feels more like insult than help. Some of this is leftover hangups from my ex, who was quite cutting, mean about it. But some just my own immature tendencies. I have pretty much learned not to react and wait until I can think about it more objectively.

Oh yes. I call them by their names and they know their names.

A house, a car, and enough to pay all the bills and still have some lifestyle, without the terror of knowing you are one job loss away from homelessness and starvation. Able to retire for 25 years before dying.

I think for us (a family not a single person) that really is a million in the bank and 200k per year. We don’t have that, nor do many others.

As a cap? I think nobody needs to accumulate more than 5 million in cash and other assets. Less if you live somewhere with reasonable pension and healthcare.

We do exactly the same as you, with one difference. For bath towels we have 2 sets and alternate them, so as we wash one set, we put out the others and put away the washed ones when done. Only replace if they fall apart, I don’t know how long that takes, maybe 15-20 years? So maybe yes with one set 8-10 years sounds about right?

Kitchen towels wear out faster, harder use and hot water wash with bleach. Bath towels last a long time, cold water wash then dryer.

I am bigger around than a short lady, but proportionally more taller than wider, elongated. I am not sure why it works that way.

What I wonder about more is fat people. My shape is defined by my skeleton, I’m not that skinny but like, my ribcage and hipbones, shoulders are my frame, the outer edges of my body shape. If someone is so fat, how does their body extend far past the bones, what holds it up? Or do they have a wider skeleton?

I had a boyfriend in England, he was Scottish (town southwest of Glasgow) but had lived in Canada, so the accent was muted. I am from Florida with parents from Louisiana so southern but not Southern l. I liked when he got drunk because he got more Scottish and he liked when I got drunk because I sounded Southern.

I am never sure how time works at all. It’s possible that everything we experience is just rolling out from some original cause, everything happening is just an effect caused by what came before, essentially has already happened, in a way, you cannot change anything.

If that is true, then yes. You are an effect caused by your parents’ actions and they in turn were an effect of their own parents’ actions, on and on back to the origin of the universe.

If it works the way it feels to us, and we are choosing actions, then no. You can modify yourself and choose to do things not caused by your upbringing, there is not just one path already laid out before you. If that’s the case, I’d think just asking the question at all is a good start, deciding what you want to keep from your past and what you want to change, living intentionally, mindfully.

I do think upbringing plays a big part in shaping a person and have often said that if a baby was dropped on my doorstep I do think it would end up being like my other kids, more than different. Especially at this point when all those other kids are adults and would also be influential.

The worst Mexican food I’ve had was in San Antonio Texas, believe it or not.

Where I live, if you find a hole-in-the-wall Mexican place it will be fantastic, I thought that rule held everywhere. Oh no. No, no, no.

Remarkably bad food, so bad. Mole made with sweetened milk chocolate. American cheese in the enchiladas. Comically bad. Absolute shit food. And outside of that one horrible experience, overall very hit or miss. How? They literally WERE Mexico! I was expecting something so good. The only great food we got there was at a hipster breakfast place.