Look, you get born, you keep your head down, and then you die. If you’re lucky.

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Cake day: June 14th, 2023
  • Hossenfeffer@feddit.uktoNo Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•How the fuck do you meet new people?English
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    3 months ago

    Friendship is based on shared experiences.

    So you need to find some experiences to share with people. Whether that’s evening pottery classes, joining (or starting) a man’s shed, joining a book club, joining a local amateur sport team, getting into a virtual TTRPG, joining a bridge club, or a chess club, or litter picking group, or bird-watching group… or something entirely different it’ll work as long as you have repeated exposure to the same group of people. Unless you pick a group who are all assholes. Or if you’re an asshole.

  • Hossenfeffer@feddit.uktoWorld News@lemmy.world•Ukraine attacks Moscow in one of largest ever drone strikes on Russian capitalEnglish
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    3 months ago

    The most successful besiegers were probably the Romans. It wasn’t so much the act of laying siege that caused cities to surrender, it was the utter, uncompromising determination of the Romans to see the siege through to the end, and the atrocities they would commit on the surrendering population that made them so successful. Surrender immediately and you don’t get enslaved or butchered… hold out and things will go very, very badly.

    I don’t recall all the details but there was one siege in western Europe where the mayor of the town declared ‘you won’t take us: we have supplies for four years in our store houses’ to which the Roman commander replied ‘then we’ll take you on the fifth year.’

    Or take Masada, a supposedly impregnable fortress built on a mountaintop. First the Romans built walls all the way around it, both to contain the Jewish ‘rebels’ but also to protect the Roman siegeworks from any potential rescue force. Then they just built a ramp. A massive, massive ramp, that reached all the way up to the fortress walls (which weren’t that strong because who builds a strong wall when your fortress is perched on top of a mountain?). Then they wheeled up some siege engines, smashed their way through the walls and discovered most of the inhabitants had commited suicide rather than face capture.

  • Hossenfeffer@feddit.uktoNo Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Is it normal to be disgruntled?English
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    4 months ago

    Yeah, that’s totally normal.

    No matter how much you think of a job as just a commercial transaction between you and your employer it’s hard not to have a visceral, emotional reaction to being told ‘we don’t need you’.

    I don’t know your financial situation, obviously, but my advice would be to try and take a bit of time out to clear your head of the old job and the layoff before you really get stuck in to finding your next gig. If you can afford to step back for a bit and clear the understandable negativity you’re currently experiencing then you’ll be far better set up for job hunting than if you just try and push through while you’re still in that negative mental space.