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  • AstralPath@lemmy.catoADHD memes@lemmy.dbzer0.comFreaks
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    10 days ago

    I think most people don’t. I live in a small house with my wife, no kids, and even that gets overwhelming somehow. Some days are just lost to work, cleaning, and maintenance.

    We do aim to have at least a couple of days a week where we don’t have to do anything at all. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn’t. When it doesn’t, it doesnt take long for burnout to set in.







  • A fancy ceremony doesn’t change how people feel about the other person, nor the level of obligations they actually have

    You literally take an oath at the ceremony vowing to uphold an extremely high level of obligations to another person.

    If you’re making vows at a wedding ceremony that you feel you can just nope out on if shit hits the fan, why are you getting married? What is the point?

    I agree. The wedding shouldn’t change how you feel about the other person because you should already be 100% dedicated if you’re thinking of getting married.

    I made a vow to my wife when we got married to care for her in sickness and in health. I do not care what happens in life, I would never abandon her. Period. That is the burden of the vow I made. In my mind my personal integrity is foundationally attached to it.

    If you’re comfortable with abandoning a spouse over health issues, the marriage was a sham from the get go. Like, what are you doing at the ceremony? Making vows with your fingers crossed behind your back? 🤞🤞🤞


  • AstralPath@lemmy.catoMemes@sopuli.xyzExcuse the fuck me?
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    1 month ago

    Dunno, man. Its hard to say. When you marry you take vows. Breaking those vows is a massive no-no in my eyes.

    Unmarried couples have never vowed to take care of each other in sickness and in health. On those grounds, I think its fair to say that leaving is not unethical. Doesn’t change the fact that its absolutely devastating and worthy of scrutiny regardless.

    Sorry you had to go through that.