• ThatWeirdGuy1001@lemmy.world
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    5 hours ago

    I have the opposite problem.

    I’ll hold a grudge and then a few years later see the person and be like “I don’t remember why but I fuckin hate that guy and that’s good enough for me”

    • PolarKraken@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      4 hours ago

      That’s how it works for me, I’ll retain the emotional content but not the specific details (good and bad). It’s weird but mostly seems to work well…? Sure has some flaws.

      Relatedly, I have great instincts about people (IRL), what they are like internally, but cannot usually articulate to others how I reach those conclusions in a way that doesn’t sound insane. I just end up being right over time, almost always (if it were always, I’d just be lying to myself lmao). It seems like a similar thing to me internally but idk. Ring true for you too or not as much?