Probably just data mining

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      Having a preference and whining are not the same thing.

      Things that are fine to say in relevant social contexts:

      • You look really cute without makeup.
      • I prefer lighter makeup.
      • I love heavy makeup looks.
      • I have sensory issues and can’t stand the smell of makeup at all.

      Things that are creepy to say in any context:

      • Women use makeup as a lie to trick men.
      • I want a traditional woman who doesn’t paint her face like a clown.
      • I don’t know how she expects to attract a man when she’s not even putting in any effort to do basic makeup.
      • I bet she’s really ugly without all that makeup.
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      Sharing your opinions of how others chose to dress or act is weird unless you are doing it to influence others. Trying to influence people by belittling them is rude.

      You could be saying it about how someone dresses, or dances, or what bike they chose to ride.

      It is unfortunate that men belittling women about their makeup is so pervasive in our culture that after at least three generations of people highlighting how hurtful it is, people still think their right to state their opinion of random people is more important than people’s right to go through their day without being accosted.

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        How common is it that random people just tell women on face these things? Asking out of genuine curiosity

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          It’s usually not complete strangers, but friends and partners: “you look better with less makeup”, “why are you wearing that?”, “see you look good without makeup!”, “are you OK, you look sick?”, “what’s wrong, are you sad?”

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      God forbid a woman doesn’t want to hang out with you.

      (repeat for all women until no woman wants to hang out with you)