I’m trying to retake the medication that I took back in high school (Concerta) so I can study for and eventually take the Comptia A+ exam. The idea being that I’ve a decently-paying remote job that will benefit both my wife and I. My wife, however, refuses to let me get my meds. This isn’t the first we’ve had this conversion and every time she says the same thing: “You just need to focus naturally”, “It’s all in your head”, “Doctors are only in it for themselves” and so on. There’s no getting through to her and I’m tired of trying to get to reason with me. I think I’m going to get my meds in secret and hide them. I know that this is a bad idea but she leaves me no choice. Any advice?
I read the title and thought about some of the side effects and that’s valid (irritability, tiredness when it wears off, sexual dysfunction). But your comments show she doesn’t understand that it’s not a willpower thing, it’s a chemicals in your brain thing and no amount of willpower will change that - and in fact that kind of talk is actively harmful. There’s absolutely a lot that can be done with mindset etc. but the drugs are a tool that enables the coping strategies and mindset work! Otherwise it’s doomed to frustration and failure.
With that in mind - to be blunt - she needs to learn more about ADHD in order for the relationship to be healthy.