i only feel sexual attraction towards my partners, and they have to be sexual first. if they’re not sexual people, i only feel romance to them and no sexual feelings. i frankly don’t wanna bang anyone and have never felt like actually doing so until i met my partner, and even then, it’s more out of curiosity and romantic sparks than anything else (i’m super romantic so i’m not aromantic).
i only feel sexual feelings under certain circumstances, and even then, i use it to make myself happy and not really wanting to have sex with someone.
i am sure i feel sexual attraction, like probably towards my partner, but i’d say less so than most people do, perhaps???
i’m demisexual for now which is on the ace spectrum.
The mindset that I struggle to understand/relate to is that of those who seem to be unable or unwilling to accept how different another mind might be.
Seems kinda funny to say that, akin to the tolerance “paradox” I suppose.
Not getting a mind that doesnt get minds hah yea I understand… however we Demi’s have spent our lives making room for those sitting at full speed at the one side of the spectrum. Sometimes even faced pressured into sexual situations when we weren’t totally on board just cuz someone else was getting upset we aren’t ’playing along’ by the rules all set by them. We understand their urges because we’ve had it rudely shoved in our faces. We’ve had to sit in the background while someone makes up bullshit like ‘men are like this women are like that’ and talk like sex is the one and only goal all people have even if it’s your best friend. Or reducing all complex human problems to ‘you just need to get laid’ bullshit.
It’s the apathetic rudeness I don’t get. Theyve taken all the air in the room for themselves.