so when i was younger, my dad gifted me a book he helped write. i was in second grade and it was his only copy. i got bullied a lot at that school and someone must have stolen it. either way, it was over a decade ago. people laughed at me and the teacher yelled at me to sit back down, and i remember leaving to get something and checking back and it was gone.
my dad will switch often between being very nice and loving, then mad and stuff over the book, for example, then when i say idk where it is, he sends a bunch of heart emojis, acts more excited than usual, and says “thank you anyway!!! <3”
furthermore, he will get into arguments easily which is also why he cant land a job, and then will get mad when someone is not “on his side”, calling people traitors and stuff for refusing to do favors for him and switching between really kind and loving to really mean and angry when someone doesn’t do what he wants.
he’s too self-absorbed to get a diagnosis and not self-aware enough, but everyone says he’s narcissistic.
My mother is very similar and I’m pretty sure she’s a narcissist. She could also switch between “Have fun at the playground my darling! I’ll have your favorite dinner ready when you come back!” to “Why did you come back?? I’m sick of you! Get lost and don’tcome back! Having children was the worst mistake of my life!” within an afternoon.
So no, it’s not normal.
Isn’t that like bipolar disorder? Or am I misunderstanding the meaning of bipolar?
That’s more Boderline Personality Disorder (BPD). That very basically means their emotional states are usually at an extreme no matter what the mood is. Bipolar is a general shift of mood over longer periods of time, and BPD means about every emotion becomes their current state of being, overpowering many logical ways of expression in the moment.
Of course I’m really simplifying it, but… well, not a psych.
My understanding is that bipolar people are swinging between depression and a manic state. Also these state last usually several days. My mother has a bunch of other symptoms of NPD, not just that one.
Oh, i see. I thought it was a more sudden, on the spot shift.