If your son was a super wealthy multi-millionaire and lived in LA or New York, but he wasn’t famous and wasn’t close to your family members (brothers, nephews, nieces, etc.), would you tell them your son is rich?
Me personally, a lie by omission is still a lie, and hiding and keeping secrets from your family is wrong. I get that the son in this scenario could keep his wealth private from his extended family members if their situation is like mine—I only see my family, like my uncle and cousins, once a year, and that’s it, and we barely talk on the phone or social media. I don’t even follow them. But if my son got wealthy somehow, it would be morally wrong not to tell them.
Is this about your cousin again? Why does it bother you so much that nobody told you about his success?
Personally, if my son owned a business and became a millionaire, I would feel like I’m bragging about it every time I mentioned it. Although I do enjoy bragging about my son, I wouldn’t want a relative telling me how much more successful my cousin was compared to me. I wouldn’t want to be that person.
You said you rarely talk to these people, so why would you expect them to go out of their way to tell you any of these things? Have you told all of them about all of your accomplishments?